I'm in a bit of a personal pickle and it's all because I lost my significant other over and during Covid. She bought totally into the MSM narrative and things went downhill from there. I have now found myself in a situation after almost a year of actually being "lonely"? I am not used to this as when I was younger, this wasn't really a problem to me but now at 63, it's kind of getting to me. Besides, I have a huge garden (two actually), two greenhouses, an orchard, all that a chunk of property and homestead requires for ongoing work, and I'm also commencing another house build on my lower 12 acres. I'm really not wanting to find someone from far away but hopefully within a few hours drive but after looking around online, I always have to have a "text" sent to me in order to register for pretty much any site. There's no cell service where I am nor do I own a cellphone. I was even thinking of trying to find someone who really wants to "get out of Dodge" and take on life on a homestead a bit out of the way and in a small community but I don't know how to do that nor do I have many contacts. I'm also very concerned about someone not having their own equivalent in assets value so I don't feel threatened in losing half of what I have built up over all these years. I see lots of older single folks in these parts but I'm discovering that I'm not liking it. Sure I have acquaintances I work and communicate with but would like a bit more for recreational stuff like biking, hiking, fishing etc. which I do at every chance I can afford the time to do. Has this sort of thing been discussed on this site before or does anyone have suggestions? I really appreciate any advice. Cheers.
Dating When You Live In The Country
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The widow who lost her husband during covid i recently bought a house from- I jokingly told her she would be the perfect woman for most of my friends. She hunts, fishes, has a big boat and a dog
Can you fix them Up with me?
They are on the east coast, she is on the left coast.
There is someone for everybody. Just got to find them
Can you fix them Up with me?
They are on the east coast, she is on the left coast.
There is someone for everybody. Just got to find them
Yah, and I'm probably in a different country. I'm in the Kootenays of B.C., Canada.
If you pretend you need to learn to sew because you have no woman and go to a sewing class, I bet you will meet some single ladies around your age. 
Thanks for acknowledging that I know how to sew. I have lived with 2 women that didn't sew while I had my own machine. Thanks for the idea.
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Way back when I was single I joined a singles boating club. Lots of women. Chick's love boats, and the men who own them.
@AlfredRussellWallace you don’t have many posts. As you have seen from the thread, most of us are a pretty friendly group that are willing to give you support.
I do admit to be a little on the crusty side.
I do admit to be a little on the crusty side.
Thanks. No boating clubs around here but I'm racking my brains on different groups.
Gardening clubs. You already have the skills and the setup.
You are on the right path Alfred. Join a club or even start going out for a drink and meal in the closest towns. You will meet someone.
You mentioned garden's and green house's..ever set up at farmers market,or on the side of the road to sell produce?.and how about someplace where folks do some off road biking and/or hiking.
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I second the club thing. Or group thing. Something in an interest you already have. I have two male widowed amish cousins, and it surprises me, although it shouldn't, that they are looking. But they've gotten lonely, and lonely isn't very fun. One is in his 80's and the other is nearly there.
Online is the most common way people meet their spouses. My advice would be get a cell phone just for this purpose and use a home computer while you’re in an area with no coverage.
Otherwise I think the group is spot on about joining a club.
Otherwise I think the group is spot on about joining a club.
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Dating is kind of a problem for me. Everyone in the county knows me or my wife.
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That's true. And 4 or 5 still have their own teeth too.Well, thats the risk you take when there is only 10 people in the county.
I see Op hasn't been back online here since July 19 2023, since before this thread petered out. I wonder how he got on looking for a woman? It's not impossible, but at a similar age I have no desire to seek one. Some men just can't live without a woman, can't find happiness in life. When I left my last girl of 9 years I too went through a period on loneliness but it passed after 2 years and now my life is so full I couldn't imagine making room for another. I'm a loner by nature though and that helps.
