Any experience with your States, "ADULT PROTECTIVE SERVICES". Personally, or family or any source you deem credible.

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Sourdough

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I have been trying to learn about where help might be available as I get older. I have looked to what could be helpful other than litigation. I have only started to experience being "jerked-around" because of my age. Some government department could likely solve many problems with only a none threatening phone call. I suspect many might not know special laws that protect the elderly.

Example: I could tell someone that I'm going to employ a law firm. But maybe a simple phone call from my state government, advising that they can't do that would be cheaper and quicker.

I really need to learn what protections the elderly have.
 
I've been my mom's power of attorney and advocate for many years until her passing in April. I will tell you, even with that, sometimes the med community does stuff they should not be doing and I'd yell my head off about it. I am convinced that they first want all your money, and then they want to drug you up because you are old and anxious. Then you die quicker. I'll never put my husband in a nursing home or get the services. And I'll outlive him, so I'll have to think of a plan for myself. Maybe a Golden Girls Farm for us old ornery ladies and we can help each other. Not sure yet.
 
They (in Alaska) have no power to do anything. And there are maybe a dozen or more "Non-Government" professionals (like doctors, Church leaders, etc.) who are required to notify them in less than 12 hours. Are you sure that is "EXACTLY" the correct department you are thinking of.

If I learned anything in my nightmare experience a year ago, it was when I needed help........and none was available, I would take any help. You may be correct, but I wonder if that department is Exactly what you think.
Pearl said:
Stay away, they take over your life!! I am very serious!! Not a call you want to make my friend!!
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A year ago, when I was in "HELL" I finally got some guidance from several government and also what is called (NGO's) Non-government organizations.

I did not get money, I did not need money. What I needed and still sometimes need is help getting "pointed" in the right direction.

I got a lot of valuable help a year ago from a "NGO". It is called "Independent living". I was paying $14.00 each way for a taxi. They said the State of Alaska has a program, for "Taxi Vouchers" for old people with no driver's license, a physical mobility issues. The vouchers cost $4.00 each. I would have never known that information was available without their help.

My experience is they help by pointing me in the right direction, where the help is.

Remember I have been living alone in the Alaska wilderness for decades. I knew nothing of how to survive and function in a small town.
 
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Our county has a " committee on aging" that offers non intrusive advice for senior services! Around here, "adult protective services" is a step in and take over bunch! I guess my advice is to clarify to whomever you are asking about help and services that you are only needing to know what help and services are available!!
 
Sourdough said:
A year ago, when I was in "HELL" I finally got some guidance from several government and also what is called (NGO's) Non-government organizations.

I did not get money, I did not need money. What I needed and still sometimes need is help getting "pointed" in the right direction.

I got a lot of valuable help a year ago from a "NGO". It is called "Independent living". I was paying $14.00 each way for a taxi. They said the State of Alaska has a program, for "Taxi Vouchers" for old people with no driver's license, a physical mobility issues. The vouchers cost $4.00 each. I would have never known that information was available without their help.

My experience is they help by pointing me in the right direction, where the help is.

Remember I have been living alone in the Alaska wilderness for decades. I knew nothing of how to survive and function in a small town.
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Independent living and even some assisted living places can be very good. Mom was in independent for 5 yrs, and assisted in one year, before having to move to nursing care because of a broken leg because of a fall. Assisted living for her was the best. That place was awesome. The nursing side was not so awesome. I swear, they'd see me come in the door and the whispers would start at the nurses station because I'd complain so much. It got ridiculous some times. I can see your point about finding out about services in a new city/town, and there are usually some pretty good ones if you're a senior. Ways to get around without driving, getting groceries, getting to a doctor. I know that they have all that in our bigger town. We are too rural, but have drivers people hire, and groups for things so we make do. There's a couple of widow groups that are super active, some are men and some are women. They help each other, get together constantly, I see them all over. The men love to get together at the amish restaurant every morning for coffee. Women shop en masse and go to eat together and take turns hosting in their homes. And if you're taking care of someone and can't get out, people come to you. We had 3 visitors in the last couple of days. Very nice.
 
Amish Heart said:
Independent living and even some assisted living places can be very good. Mom was in independent for 5 yrs, and assisted in one year, before having to move to nursing care because of a broken leg because of a fall. Assisted living for her was the best. That place was awesome. The nursing side was not so awesome. I swear, they'd see me come in the door and the whispers would start at the nurses station because I'd complain so much. It got ridiculous some times. I can see your point about finding out about services in a new city/town, and there are usually some pretty good ones if you're a senior. Ways to get around without driving, getting groceries, getting to a doctor. I know that they have all that in our bigger town. We are too rural, but have drivers people hire, and groups for things so we make do. There's a couple of widow groups that are super active, some are men and some are women. They help each other, get together constantly, I see them all over. The men love to get together at the amish restaurant every morning for coffee. Women shop en masse and go to eat together and take turns hosting in their homes. And if you're taking care of someone and can't get out, people come to you. We had 3 visitors in the last couple of days. Very nice.
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Independent Living here is an NGO it is much like Catholic Social Services, which is also an NGO. These people (NGO) apply for federal or state grant money to operate. What I think best describes them is they know stuff that most don't know, about many different things that could affect living. They basically do what the government is supposed to do but fails to do.
 
Amish Heart said:
I've been my mom's power of attorney and advocate for many years until her passing in April. I will tell you, even with that, sometimes the med community does stuff they should not be doing and I'd yell my head off about it. I am convinced that they first want all your money, and then they want to drug you up because you are old and anxious. Then you die quicker. I'll never put my husband in a nursing home or get the services. And I'll outlive him, so I'll have to think of a plan for myself. Maybe a Golden Girls Farm for us old ornery ladies and we can help each other. Not sure yet.
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To be sure, this is an "age" old question.
Do you have any idea how the Amish support their aging parents and grandparents? I wonder if they somehow manage to just keep them at home? Of course, it would be hard to generalize.
 
A doddy house is built next to the big house for the parents when they age. Usually the youngest child and their spouse and children move into the big house and take care of the farm and the parents. The youngest buy out the farm at a reduced price from their parents. So, yep, mostly they are kept at home. I have seen where there's one surviving parent that needs alot of care, like my cousin Alice...her spouse died a number of years ago, and she was fine in the doddy house till she had a stroke. So for one week she'd stay with one daughter and family, they'd move her to another daughter's place the next week. Cared for her that way till she passed. An exception I met last year was a 103 yr old amish lady, Wilma Keim. She was brought to the Mennonite Manor nursing side where my mom was. Her daughter was herself in her 80's and was in poor health and couldn't care for her. She lived there 5 months till she passed. That actually was unusual, and she was cash pay. My mom was, too, and that was $10,400 a month. I visited Wilma a few times, but she was usually sleeping.
 
Back in South Florida I got and used a Bus Pass for Senior Citizens, I had used it Once then Moved...!!!
 
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