Thats more a lack of self control, or discipline if you will
A very wise man (my father) gifted me this little bit of wisdom, which holds true to this day: Everyone has 24 hours each day, it's up to you to decide how you use it.
What is funny, is that I had this exact conversation with my two boys this morning at 5:25 am. Here in Nebraska, one of the main summer ag jobs is detasseling. For those that don't know, seed corn is grown with two different varieties of corn. One variety is the male plant, the other is the female plant. In order to make sure that the female variety is only pollinated by the male plant, crews of middle, high school and some college kids venture out into the fields each day to remove the tassels of the female plants. And these crews start early, because being in the middle of a cornfield, in July is hot work. The earlier they start, the better the chance of getting the fields done before the heat of the day.
Now, I have two mid and upper teenage boys. As most teenagers, they have a major issue with getting up in the morning. Usually not that big of a deal, I get up between 5 and 5:30 everyday throughout the year. They have to be at the high school (where the buses leave from) at 5:45 and they need to leave our house by 5:30. They know that if they aren't 10 minutes early, they are late. Anyways, I've adjusted my schedule to be up by 4:30, so I can shower, dress and get them up at 5:00.
This morning, I went to my youngest's room, told him good morning and that it was time to get up, it was 5:00. Then across the house to wake up my oldest son, same greeting. I went to the kitchen to make a cup of coffee. It was 5:05. I went back to my youngest's room, gave him the warning that the light was coming on, flipped the switch and told him it was time to get up. Across the house to do the same for my oldest. Took our lab out so she could do her business. Came back in, it was 5:15. Stuck my head in my oldest's room (it's closest to the back door), and told him in the dad voice, get up. He sat up and reluctantly got going. Went to my youngest's, told him the same thing.
Five minutes later, my youngest is dressed and comes out of the bathroom brushing his teeth. In between brushes, he ask's "What's going on Dad?" I said, nothing, just getting some coffee. He says, "No, I mean, why are you upset?" I told him, "I'm not upset, just tired of you and your brother not getting up when I wake you the first time. I have had to adjust my schedule by an hour earlier to get up and get ready, so that I can get you guys up and get ready. I still have the same amount to do each day, from morning until night, I loose an hour of sleep, so I can make sure they are up and they can't even show me the gratitude of getting up the first time. But they sure can stay up until 10 or 11 at night playing online with their friends." He said that they were just tired from working in the fields and there just isn't enough time to sleep. I gave him the same insight my dad gave me. We all have the same 24 hours each day, it's just that you and your brother are choosing to use it for something other than sleeping.
We'll see if it sunk in with him. For being 14, he usually listens to the advice I give him and tries his hardest to implement it. His brother is 18, and as we all know at 18, Dad is the dumbest person on the planet and doesn't know sheep s!@# from Arbuckles. I'm more than tempted to wake him up once and if he is late and misses the bus, that's on him. The only thing that is holding me back from that is that, a) he drives his brother to work and b) they get a pretty hefty bonus if they are on time and don't miss any days of work (last year their bonus was $700 for three weeks of work on top of their regular wage).
