Love or money

[d_marsh]

So there is this woman I used to know who just sent me an evite to her wedding reception. She is from the UK and is half British and half Lebanese, which in her case makes for one seriously good looking woman. First of all inviting me seemed odd, really odd. Why would you want a former bang buddy at your wedding? Then when I checked out the wedding website I wanted to call her and ask her what the hell she was thinking. She is like 30 and very attractive, her soon to be husband is almost 50 and is extremely average in every way. I was kind of baffled until I looked him up on social media. Turns out he comes from old money and was just handed a title at one of family businesses out of college. I don't know for sure, but it looks like she gave up on finding love and decided to settle for money.

 

[Mountain trapper]

It's just as easy to fall in love with a poor person as a rich one.

 

[Pearl]

To each their own!!

 

[OldSchool]

Could this thread turn into “The d_marsh Chronicles - The Sidetrack”

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[OldSchool]

I’ll buy more popcorn and sharpen my speed reading skills.

 

[Ekatarina]

Big question : LOVE or MONEY

I answer : MONEY

And giving my love to my pets

 

[d_marsh]

It's just as easy to fall in love with a poor person as a rich one.

There is nothing easy about love or money.

I see a lot of ugly rich men with smoking hot women, I almost never see ugly poor men with smoking hot women.

 

[d_marsh]

To each their own!!

That woman and I hooked up a lot. Enough for me to know she was running away from a very traditional Lebanese father who wanted to control everything about her. I am sure this will either appease him or send him through the roof, not sure which.

 

[Ekatarina]

There is nothing easy about love or money.

I see a lot of ugly rich men with smoking hot women, I almost never see ugly poor men with smoking hot women.

Most of those *women* are there for $
We know a word for these kind of women

 

[d_marsh]

Most of those *women* are there for $
We know a word for these kind of women

Democrats?

 

[Patchouli]

She wants to see your smokin' hot date, provided you got a "plus one" invitation.
Or maybe she wants you to know she's still available. Or needs security. She still wants paternal security, that's why the older man with money. I'm bad.
So, will you go?

 

[d_marsh]

She wants to see your smokin' hot date, provided you got a "plus one" invitation.
Or maybe she wants you to know she's still available. Or needs security. She still wants paternal security, that's why the older man with money. I'm bad.
So, will you go?

So after closer inspection, it turns out that I was not invited to a "wedding reception", I was invited to "Kiss the Miss goodbye" party. Which I am pretty sure is a fancy way of saying bachelorette party. I can only think of one reason she would invite me to something like that.

And no, I will not be going. I would have gone if the lady wouldn't have entered my life. I have actually been to a few bachelorette parties, one where I was given a "last fling before the ring" t-shirt to wear as we traveled from club to club on a party bus.

 

[d_marsh]

I will clarify that I did not sleep with the woman to be married. I may have been a he-slut but I do have morals. Everyone had a funny shirt and that one was mine. Lucky for me two of the bridesmaids were single.

 

[Hooch]

I'd go insane having to be being around, screw and live with someone I wasn't really into..rich or poor..

Actually, I go nutty having to be around, screw and live with someone I'm into..I wonder if love would change that to at least tolerate it..maybe I'll find out someday..

I'd consider to do both, love with money as long as I'd have a she cave to escape too..like daily.. lol..

I can understand why people choose money over love...i just dont know how id pull it off without not turning into a drunkard or fry my brain numb in order to cope with the loss of space n screwing someone who needs a bag over their head.

At this point in my life realistically..the playing field should be at least on equal ground ..not perfect..just equal offerings to the table. Be a bonus if they liked sleeping in their own bed without me in it..mostly..unless they're super hot..I could probably compromise that one..maybe..lol..

 

[Amish Heart]

I'd say the question is more love or responsibility...meaning you love the person, and see that they can be responsible to care for themselves, possibly you, and a family, so that does mean some amount of money and not homeless poor. Don't have to be rich, but have something in their life to take care of it all. And not tons of debt. And not zero ambition.

 

[teeceetx]

Such is human nature ... all of it!

 

[Pearl]

How about FRIENDSHIP??? That's my first choice!

 

[Magpie]

There is nothing easy about love or money.

I see a lot of ugly rich men with smoking hot women, I almost never see ugly poor men with smoking hot women.

You haven't met my husband....

 

[sonya123]

I'd say the question is more love or responsibility...meaning you love the person, and see that they can be responsible to care for themselves, possibly you, and a family, so that does mean some amount of money and not homeless poor. Don't have to be rich, but have something in their life to take care of it all. And not tons of debt. And not zero ambition.

this one!
I would never marry a guy for just money, but I would want him to have some sort of earning potential. All of my husbands had that.
And I think there has to be at least some physical attraction. Don't think I could do it with an ugly old guy no matter how much money he had.
Romantic love is something that fades after time, so that's not something to build a relationship on I think. I am too practical for that after figuring that out when I was young .

 

[Morgan101]

Oddly enough the first thing that came to my mind was the old Eagles song Lying Eyes.

City girls just seem to find out early
How to open doors with just a smile
A rich old man and she won't have to worry
She'll dress up all in lace and go in style

Sad, but everybody makes their own choices. IMHO you made the right choice not to attend.

 

[d_marsh]

How about FRIENDSHIP??? That's my first choice!

I think love is the second stage of friendship.

I think money derails both.

 

[12icemaker]

The LOVE OF money is the problem, it causes a lot of friction if one person knows that money is used best to vastly improve quality of life and make it more enjoyable and easier by design instead of by satisfying menial urges that are lavish expenditure for very short term gain and the other does just that, or the other is so enamored with and frightened at even the divestment of the money to vastly improve the quality of life of the holders.

Either is a relationship killer, may not kill actual deep love but will be a concrete wall between the participants that cannot be torn down even in the firsts eventual death.

 

[Tirediron]

I really think people put too much value on money, sure lots would be nice, but a lot of great discoveries are due to having to find a cheaper way, And I like my own company, I will never let someone re arange my kitchen again. or decide when I need to do my dishes.

 

[havasu]

All of my husbands

 

[Magpie]

I think if you are that into money the concept of riches over people extends into every area of life; if you like the finer things, I would have thought you will surround yourself with friends and colleagues that might help you on your way?
Regardless of the why, and I'm not judging her, to each his own- and we don't know anyway. I find it more odd she's inviting you after so long an absence of contact.
Either she wants to rub your nose in what you could have had (in which case I'm guessing she doesn't know you well, because you won't care) or she's planning some pre honeymoon action without the groom, in which case you are well out of it. and here ends Psychology 101 for the day