You asked her to marry you, I'm pretty sure she will not think you under gifted!! Glad y'all are keeping the dating alive!! You can always take the blankie along on the date!!
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^^^ @d_marsh "So we're going out today to a couple holiday pop-up events for some shopping, food and alcohol, then back home for dinner (maybe). I have found out that my lady is more of a homebody than I realized. She loves date night and getting out and about in the warmer weather, but the colder it gets the more she yearns for the sofa and her heated blanket. I am pretty sure if I even tried to take that blanket she would cut me. She's like that little weird guy from Lord of the Rings with that heated blanket, my precious!
I am also starting to wonder what she has in store for Christmas. She has sent me like 7 emails or texts that go like "I thought of something else you could get me for Christmas!" and has yet to ask me if there is anything I want/need. Which tells me she already has it or has a plan that does not involve my input. And all that does is make me feel like I have under-gifted and need to come up with something more."
Words You will not hear...^^^
As for what You should give her : Show Her How Much You LOVE Her...!!!
I am also starting to wonder what she has in store for Christmas. She has sent me like 7 emails or texts that go like "I thought of something else you could get me for Christmas!" and has yet to ask me if there is anything I want/need. Which tells me she already has it or has a plan that does not involve my input. And all that does is make me feel like I have under-gifted and need to come up with something more."
Words You will not hear...^^^
As for what You should give her : Show Her How Much You LOVE Her...!!!
she knows what he wants and really likes !!
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I'd bet a new wedding band is on the list, if you don't have a new one yet.
^^^ So Soon and will it be an Every Month Thing NOW...?!?
yall he found love....he wants LOVE from this woman...he has had animal carnal sex....now he found love and the sex goes along with it.
LOVE !!
Love -and- a gift card to the gun store -and- animal carnal sex.
She keeps showing me rings. Like 300 times a day. And every time I tell her "too fancy". I am trying to negotiate to just have my finger tattooed and call it good, but she's not having it.
Long story short, we are at the Christmas bazaar when a 30 year busty red head dressed like she was 21 came over and excitedly hugged me before going into a loud bubbly "OMG I have not seen you in like two years! What have you been up to!?" sort of thing. She looks at the lady for like .002 seconds then turns back to me and invites me over to the bar to have a drink and "catch up". The lady had a look on her face that I can only describe as "not amused". I declined the invite, held up my hand to show my silicone ring and got a "NO ******* WAY!" and a "If you were open to something long term you should have called me!". The lady's look turned to something closer to "murderous". I had burned through a few drink tickets at this point but was more than sober enough to make it clear that that was then, this is now, and now I am taken. She hugged me again, gave the lady another quick look, said "if it doesn't work, call me", and jiggled off into the crowd.
I apologized for her and suggested we continued enjoying the festival. The lady seemed okay at first, but eventually started making comments that made it pretty clear that she was feeling a tad jealous or displeased that someone trespassed on her property, if you pick up what I'm laying down. These comments and her slightly less than overjoyed attituded continued for an hour or so. Eventually we arrived at the steakhouse to eat an early dinner. She made another comment about the red head so I told her that she was just a hook up, we were never serious, we would never have been serious even if she wanted to be when I was available, and I had no interest in her any other woman alive on this or any other planet. Still, she didn't seem to be 100% convinced. So I stood on my chair, got everyone's attention, introduced myself and the lady, declared my undying love and adoration, announced our newlywed status, got them to increase the applause and cheers, thanked them and wished them the merriest of Christmases and happiest of holidays. I climbed down and told her to either accept that she is my one and only forevermore or she should plunge a steak knife into my orbital socket. I offered to make that a public announcement as well to mitigate legal liability, but she declined, came over and kissed me, then sat on my side of the table for the rest of the meal. I also told about 15 different people on our walk back to the car that she was the love of my life and I was 100% committed to her forever before she told me she accepted my declaration of love and I could stop professing it. Then we got donuts and she drove me home.
And now I have to slowly change the way I look so we never run into a former bed bunny every again.
I apologized for her and suggested we continued enjoying the festival. The lady seemed okay at first, but eventually started making comments that made it pretty clear that she was feeling a tad jealous or displeased that someone trespassed on her property, if you pick up what I'm laying down. These comments and her slightly less than overjoyed attituded continued for an hour or so. Eventually we arrived at the steakhouse to eat an early dinner. She made another comment about the red head so I told her that she was just a hook up, we were never serious, we would never have been serious even if she wanted to be when I was available, and I had no interest in her any other woman alive on this or any other planet. Still, she didn't seem to be 100% convinced. So I stood on my chair, got everyone's attention, introduced myself and the lady, declared my undying love and adoration, announced our newlywed status, got them to increase the applause and cheers, thanked them and wished them the merriest of Christmases and happiest of holidays. I climbed down and told her to either accept that she is my one and only forevermore or she should plunge a steak knife into my orbital socket. I offered to make that a public announcement as well to mitigate legal liability, but she declined, came over and kissed me, then sat on my side of the table for the rest of the meal. I also told about 15 different people on our walk back to the car that she was the love of my life and I was 100% committed to her forever before she told me she accepted my declaration of love and I could stop professing it. Then we got donuts and she drove me home.
And now I have to slowly change the way I look so we never run into a former bed bunny every again.
WELL HANDLED!
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Of all the women before her and your serious declaration that you would never get married, and then you married her having just known her for for around 4 months and that doesn't convince her that she is the one, and there will be no one else? This might happen again, that you run into another woman from your past!
Her ex is a crap head! The divorce left a scar, and now she's married to a great guy. His past flings will pop up, and other women will find him attractive! She will guard her territory!!
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You are so right. She has scars, and any of his past women showing up, hugging him, etc., will be upsetting to her.
I'm glad he made a big embarrassing fuss over her!! That really says a lot!!
I think she knew this day would come, I have been fully transparent with her about my life before the supper club encounter. Just when it happened, and Jiggly McCleavage show up all flirty and semi-dressed, I don't believe she was mentally ready for it. That is presuming you can be. I made it clear several times that to me, all in means ALL IN. Then I invited her to form a support group and educational seminar for all my former flings, hook ups, one-nighters, regulars, repeat customers and party girls so she could explain to them how she lead me from them to a wedding ring. She declined but did say perhaps a monthly e-mail newsletter called "It could still happen for you, just not with my man" could be a possibility.
The lady's father passed away in his sleep early Thursday morning. While their relationship was tepid, the lady and her sister are still understandably upset. We were supposed to go see him tomorrow, so that is adding to her grief. Per his wishes we have arranged for his cremation, against he wishes, we will all be getting together tomorrow for a 'celebration of life' meal and opportunity to mourn.
Always Ruff when that happens, even harder near the Holidays... 
I wondered why you weren't here yesterday! Sorry for her loss!! Glad you are there for her and her daughter!! Hugs to you all!!
All the ladies I ever loved either turned out to be insane, died, or backstabbed me for a bigger, better fool. I'm nothing nobody wants anyway.
How is it that a lady is sending you "intimate" Pictures one week and you're in the friend zone the next, then a month later she's blocked you?
How is it that a lady is sending you "intimate" Pictures one week and you're in the friend zone the next, then a month later she's blocked you?
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Even when people are not the best, if they are family, it is a loss. He was around long enough for you to meet him, for him to give you the blessing and idea of marrying her. His comments to you did have an impact on you and her.
Now, you have to make sure that the sister doesn't try to poison her tomorrow or at any time in the future until the estate is settled.
Thanks everyone. We were expecting him to pass, but the docs made us believe we were looking at months and not weeks.
The townhouse he owned was sold and closed on some weeks back and the money added to his investment account. There will be a fair amount of medical expenses to cover but then it will be time to distribute his wealth according to his will. I do not believe her sister will contest it, but the love of money does corrupt ones mind and motivation. The sister is already very wealthy as it is however, much more so than the lady is.
The townhouse he owned was sold and closed on some weeks back and the money added to his investment account. There will be a fair amount of medical expenses to cover but then it will be time to distribute his wealth according to his will. I do not believe her sister will contest it, but the love of money does corrupt ones mind and motivation. The sister is already very wealthy as it is however, much more so than the lady is.
Sorry for her loss, prayers. Death does strange things to the survivors, relatives that you thought were rock solid do stupid things when money (greed) is involved. That can be a good thing. If they do something stupid just cut them out of your life. I won't tolerate a greedy SOB.
Prayers on the way for everyone Marsh. Sorry to hear about his death. Even though they weren't close, it's still the ladies dad.
Thanks.
We had a celebration of life event/meal today at the sister's home. It was catered in and quite nice. The sister's home is even fancier than I expected and we ate on the covered/heated patio which alone is larger and nicer than any home I have ever had. Outdoor kitchen, full bar, numerous pieces of furniture, full dining table that could seat 12/14 people, built in lighting, ceiling fans, big screen television, multi-speaker audio system, private bathroom, etc.
I learned quite a bit, like how the sister did not grow up in his house like the lady did. Apparently her mom packed her up and left when she was an infant. He did not abuse her mother or anything like that, she just wanted a fancier life than it seemed he was going to provide. And she got it too. The lady and her sister shared some stories, showed everyone some photos and a few older video clips, and in the process they shed some tears.
After that the lady just wanted to go home. She is now just sitting on the sofa, covered in soft blankets, with her earbuds in, drowning out the rest of the world. I am going to give her all the space she needs and get dinner made. I doubt she will eat at all and didn't even accept my offer of a drink or glass of wine.
His cremated remains will be interned without ceremony, at his request, at one of the local VA cemeteries. I will visit it once to place a penny in honor of his service.
We had a celebration of life event/meal today at the sister's home. It was catered in and quite nice. The sister's home is even fancier than I expected and we ate on the covered/heated patio which alone is larger and nicer than any home I have ever had. Outdoor kitchen, full bar, numerous pieces of furniture, full dining table that could seat 12/14 people, built in lighting, ceiling fans, big screen television, multi-speaker audio system, private bathroom, etc.
I learned quite a bit, like how the sister did not grow up in his house like the lady did. Apparently her mom packed her up and left when she was an infant. He did not abuse her mother or anything like that, she just wanted a fancier life than it seemed he was going to provide. And she got it too. The lady and her sister shared some stories, showed everyone some photos and a few older video clips, and in the process they shed some tears.
After that the lady just wanted to go home. She is now just sitting on the sofa, covered in soft blankets, with her earbuds in, drowning out the rest of the world. I am going to give her all the space she needs and get dinner made. I doubt she will eat at all and didn't even accept my offer of a drink or glass of wine.
His cremated remains will be interned without ceremony, at his request, at one of the local VA cemeteries. I will visit it once to place a penny in honor of his service.
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I wonder about creating some kind of online memorial for him.
There are military sites for people who were in particular wars, etc. My dad is on some site for WW II.
I know of people who were cremated and so no grave site, but they do have memorials on Find a Grave. Find a Grave has a policy where a memorial cannot be created until three months have passed since their death, unless it is created by a close family member. People can be linked to family members on the web site.
He wanted nothing, and I understand that. Maybe his daughters will feel the same way, but there are people out there who create memorials for many people they have never met. There have been issues with people creating memorials as soon as they hear of someone's death, which is why the three month policy was developed. Also, there is a preference that these memorials are held by family members. Some people want to own them and will not release them to family members without help from Find a Grave.
I tried to find someone who is not physically in the ground, such as a cremation, but the best I can do is someone famous. https://www.findagrave.com/memorial/1075/george-washington
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They are going to follow his wishes and do nothing more. Any friends or close associates he had slowly but surely disappeared from his life as his drinking and isolation increased over the last 20+ years. The only person still in his life was his assistant, who when found out about his passing only said "well, at least his battles are over now". And I think that summed up how everyone felt.
Guess who I had lunch with today? The lady's ex-husband, the dentist. He left a note for me at the front desk of the apartment complex and asked me, no plead with me, to meet him at the time and place of my choosing. Since I have never lived a boring or danger-free life, I decided to see what he had to say. I took all due precautions and eventually we were both seated at a BBQ place early this afternoon. He is one beat down and defeated human being wrought with regret and humiliation. I think the lady would have actually enjoyed watching this.
The purpose of the meeting was to ask me to pass on his condolences to the lady for her father, which he learned about on social media, to congratulate me on marrying his former wife, and to wish the "three of us" a merry Christmas. But also in some weird way, to try and atone I guess. He was excessively apologetic and told me all about how he threw away his family for a side piece con-woman who rode him hard, twisted him, ran him through the ringer, chewed him up and spit him out. Even though their marriage was never real, she is still suing him for assets which are few and far between and is now threatening to accuse him of knowing about the fraud and participating in it if he doesn't help pay for legal counsel and play the loving husband in court. For 45 minutes he went on and on and on, clearly this man had no one to talk to in his life and no one to provide him feedback or advice. He made it clear he knew he was never going to have any kind of relationship with his ex-wife and ex-daughter, but he wanted me to pass on that he now truly understands how stupid he was and how he threw his life & family away because of ego and ignorance. He seemed sincere, enough so I was starting to wonder if he wasn't going to leave the place and go commit suicide.
I never let him off the hook or gave him a big hug, but I did tell that the only thing he can do is pull his **** together and get things back on track. He agreed and talked about how deep in debt he was and how he had to find a dentist to partner with to keep his practice open. He even has a part time job teaching at a tech school with a dental assistant certification program. His fancy place, gone. His fancy car, gone. His fancy life, gone. He now lives a in standard every day apartment and drives a used Honda while his make-believe wife sits in a detention center. He never asked me any questions, he just had his cathartic moment and asked me to pass on his too little, too late, apologies and to explain to the ladies that karma had come around to punish him for his misdeeds. That they could rejoice that his crimes against them did not go without consequence.
We then parted ways and he left. My associate, who was nearby watching my back, followed him in his to an apartment complex near his dental practice that he described as "boring". He also put a tracker on his car so I can watch his comings and goings for a couple weeks. However my gut feeling is that the ex is just trying to find some closure in his solace. I don't think we're going to start working out or hot tubbing together.
The purpose of the meeting was to ask me to pass on his condolences to the lady for her father, which he learned about on social media, to congratulate me on marrying his former wife, and to wish the "three of us" a merry Christmas. But also in some weird way, to try and atone I guess. He was excessively apologetic and told me all about how he threw away his family for a side piece con-woman who rode him hard, twisted him, ran him through the ringer, chewed him up and spit him out. Even though their marriage was never real, she is still suing him for assets which are few and far between and is now threatening to accuse him of knowing about the fraud and participating in it if he doesn't help pay for legal counsel and play the loving husband in court. For 45 minutes he went on and on and on, clearly this man had no one to talk to in his life and no one to provide him feedback or advice. He made it clear he knew he was never going to have any kind of relationship with his ex-wife and ex-daughter, but he wanted me to pass on that he now truly understands how stupid he was and how he threw his life & family away because of ego and ignorance. He seemed sincere, enough so I was starting to wonder if he wasn't going to leave the place and go commit suicide.
I never let him off the hook or gave him a big hug, but I did tell that the only thing he can do is pull his **** together and get things back on track. He agreed and talked about how deep in debt he was and how he had to find a dentist to partner with to keep his practice open. He even has a part time job teaching at a tech school with a dental assistant certification program. His fancy place, gone. His fancy car, gone. His fancy life, gone. He now lives a in standard every day apartment and drives a used Honda while his make-believe wife sits in a detention center. He never asked me any questions, he just had his cathartic moment and asked me to pass on his too little, too late, apologies and to explain to the ladies that karma had come around to punish him for his misdeeds. That they could rejoice that his crimes against them did not go without consequence.
We then parted ways and he left. My associate, who was nearby watching my back, followed him in his to an apartment complex near his dental practice that he described as "boring". He also put a tracker on his car so I can watch his comings and goings for a couple weeks. However my gut feeling is that the ex is just trying to find some closure in his solace. I don't think we're going to start working out or hot tubbing together.
