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I think you have no grasp on what being a 'full-time' caregiver entails.Then find somewhere to go.
Let the other neighbors help for a while.
In other words, you're stuck with her no matter what. you have my condolences.I think you have no grasp on what being a 'full-time' caregiver entails.
We CAN'T go anywhere without putting her life in peril.
If she even drops something, someone has to be right there to pick it up or she will fall over, bust her head, and end up dead like her husband did.
My dad exited the same way.
Someone has to be with her unless she is sleeping or showering.
For reference: my mom is 96 and has 'around-the-clock' care.
It costs $1,800 PER WEEK!
Yes. We knew what we were signing up for when we moved here.In other words, you're stuck with her no matter what. you have my condolences.
You are not going to change this from happening so you might as well let it go.I don't see it much on this site , but on others I have to google what their saying , can't people spell words anymore ? This is just a partial list.
Drives me nuts .... Maybe i'm just to old for this new world.
- AFK - Away From Keyboard
- BBL - Be Back Later
- BBS - Be Back Soon
- BEG - Big Evil Grin
- BRB - Be Right Back
- BTW - By The Way
- EG - Evil Grin
- IDK - I Don't Know
- IMO - In My Opinion
- IRL - In Real Life
- LMK - Let Me Know
- NOYB - None of Your Business
- OMG - Oh My God
- POS - Parents Over Shoulder
- ROFL - Rolling On the Floor Laughing
- SMH - Shaking My Head
- TTYL - Talk To You Later
- WTH - What The Heck (or Hell)
I agree but my brothers seem to think we are freeloaders just because we took care of my handicapped brother for 15 years and didn't pay rent.That's what good people do.
I agree but my brothers seem to think we are freeloaders just because we took care of my handicapped brother for 15 years and didn't pay rent.
OMG dude? LOL N00b! WT* U dnt spk t3h leet ROFL IRL IMO anybody spk this way=retard TTYL BEG.I don't see it much on this site , but on others I have to google what their saying , can't people spell words anymore ? This is just a partial list.
Drives me nuts .... Maybe i'm just to old for this new world.
- AFK - Away From Keyboard
- BBL - Be Back Later
- BBS - Be Back Soon
- BEG - Big Evil Grin
- BRB - Be Right Back
- BTW - By The Way
- EG - Evil Grin
- IDK - I Don't Know
- IMO - In My Opinion
- IRL - In Real Life
- LMK - Let Me Know
- NOYB - None of Your Business
- OMG - Oh My God
- POS - Parents Over Shoulder
- ROFL - Rolling On the Floor Laughing
- SMH - Shaking My Head
- TTYL - Talk To You Later
- WTH - What The Heck (or Hell)
Good trade, and being family eliminates the freeloader definition, you can only freeload off of strangers.You are not going to change this from happening so you might as well let it go.
I occasionally have to stop and look up something but most of the time I just ignore it and move on.
I agree but my brothers seem to think we are freeloaders just because we took care of my handicapped brother for 15 years and didn't pay rent.
Ok. I'm still on a rant.I think you have no grasp on what being a 'full-time' caregiver entails.
We CAN'T go anywhere without putting her life in peril.
If she even drops something, someone has to be right there to pick it up or she will fall over, bust her head, and end up dead like her husband did.
My dad exited the same way.
Someone has to be with her unless she is sleeping or showering.
For reference: my mom is 96 and has 'around-the-clock' care.
It costs $1,800 PER WEEK!
Ok. I'm still on a rant.
Some people here that live by themselves need to be thinking about who will be taking care of them when they get too old to take care of themselves.
(the ones that aren't going to be hit by a truck like @Wingnut )
It's wonderful to think: "they'll just stick me in a nursing home".
No, Medicare don't pay for that.
Sure, you can pay your own way; $85,000 per year will get you barely above slum-level.
I know this is a forbidden topic that we are not supposed to talk about, but I haven't been in trouble for a while.
Maybe spreading a rumor about the huge wealth the person that sees you thru to the end will receive from your estate, isn't such a bad idea.
What? You didn't hear about all the oil wells I own?
When I eventually become immobile, I might just go on a hike and let nature sort me out.
Even if he can get that far with his walker, I would prefer your Mack truck.Wait a minute... if you're IMMOBILE, how can you POSSIBLY go on a HIKE? Is this a trick post or question?
Even if he can get that far with his walker, I would prefer your Mack truck.
What he is talking about would take longer than a week.
(Wish I hadda bought Nigerian oil wells when I could).
Edit: I fed the guinea pig.
Sad and scary about what her future is going to be.I just found out from my son my oldest granddaughter in her second year of high School has a 0.3 gpa. No I did not get that backwards. I thanked him for the update and said I no longer feel any guilt about spending her college money to buy tangible assets. She lives with her mother out of state and apparently out of our influence.
What did you feed it to?Edit: I fed the guinea pig.
Yeah I know, I worked on all of them. But when somebody gets hit by a semi, they always say: "He got run over by a Mack-truck! ".YOU FUNNEH... AND HOW DO YA KNOW IT'S A BULLDOG??? THERE ARE OTHER MAKES.
Ok. I'm still on a rant.
Some people here that live by themselves need to be thinking about who will be taking care of them when they get too old to take care of themselves.
(the ones that aren't going to be hit by a truck like @Wingnut )
It's wonderful to think: "they'll just stick me in a nursing home".
No, Medicare don't pay for that.
Sure, you can pay your own way; $85,000 per year will get you barely above slum-level.
I know this is a forbidden topic that we are not supposed to talk about, but I haven't been in trouble for a while.
Maybe spreading a rumor about the huge wealth the person that sees you thru to the end will receive from your estate, isn't such a bad idea.
What? You didn't hear about all the oil wells I own?
Start thinking about it. Maybe take a really good person under your wing early.That is a concern for us. We have no kids so that well could become an issue for that
Start thinking about it. Maybe take a really good person under your wing early.
Stepdaughter will take care of my wife so we are good.
I won't be a problem because I smoke and drink beer everyday.
Heck, I ain't even supposed to be here today...
Supposed to die of colon-cancer at 65 like my 2 brothers did, but being a hard-head I got my polyps clipped not once, but twice!
Down yonder the red guy with the horns is mad that he still has an empty chair .
Get you some Nigerian oil wells!I've been thinking about it for some time now. We have maybe a couple options. But when it comes down to it????????
Thank you for sharing the wonderful story.Well, hey, we had my mom live with us and it lasted 4 months. She wanted out. She tried independent living at Mennonite Manor (her pick) and did ok for 5 yrs. Had to move her to assisted living, and it's great. She loves it. Husbands and wives (and widows) are there. For her level of care, it's $3500 a month. All food made for her, housekeeping, laundry, nurse 24/7, medical checks, hair dresser. And her two bedroom apartment is very nice. Thankfully she has the money to pay it herself every month. She's almost 90. So that's one option. The medical side of the place is $8K a month. That would drain her funds quick. I'd hate to leave our place, and hope we don't have to.
They will be ok, but medicare and social security are going down fast. Won't be long before any helpful programs will be gone!! Just more that our lovely corrupt government is taking from us!!Yep, her estate will vanish if she lives a long time. One of my grandma's favorite cousins lived to 105. Died just a couple years ago, and still carried on a conversation. Mom will be 90 this year. I have a sister who is ticked because she would like a lot of money left over so she can have some. And she actually said that she needs some of it now. Not happening. That 8K figure will not be taken care of by Medicare. So, as long as she lives in the assisted living that she is in, she can afford it for many years, and she likes it. How it works here in Kansas....you have to exhaust all of your own funds, then it will be paid for by Kancares. I have an uncle and aunt and they are in the medical side, 98 yrs old and 96. Kancares covers their bills.
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