Brent,
It's not really hate between 'parties' (aka Dem/Republican), but rather ideas/views. On some things, you can find a middle ground. In fact I'll say that the 'republicans' (not conservatives) have been surrendering to this 'middle ground' for years/decades with the left only dragging things further left.
There are some things you can find a middle ground. Left (L) wants free insurance for everyone (aka I pay for others), C (conservatives) say each pays their own way. The middle ground was a Medicaid/medicare for the impoverished and everyone else pays their own. But that wasn't good enough.
C believes all life is precious and L thinks every baby has a right to die (again, 'free', aka I pay for it). Middle ground was 50 years ago when each state chose their own abortion laws.
The problem is that individual States have no rights any more, the L wants to shove their wacko radical ideas on everyone and the C are fed up. I'm not sure you can find many things that the C have forced on everyone for these past 50 years, pushing it further year by year. I'd be curious if you can name some, I gave 2 examples that infuriate the C's (and I can list every more).
The point is, there is no 'middle ground' any more. With no State Rights, I cannot 'retreat' to a State that enacts the laws I want. And when you push a badger into a corner, he'll fight. And I think we're about at that point.
That is why the average American chose a 'fighter' like Trump to step in as President. We aren't going to take it any more. We don't care if it's ugly or really who gets hurt (too many have already gotten hurt on our side). I really couldn't care less what is 'tweeted' and who's feelings are hurt. Could not care LESS. We have nowhere else to retreat to, we've retreated FAR too much already, and we've drawn 'the red line'. Can you understand any of that?