THE KIND OF NEIGHBORS NO ONE WANTS

[Maverick]

That sounds heavenly. My neighbors are not really close but they do make more noise than I like. Seems like there is always a bulldozer or something going on over there. When I hear it , I think what do they have left to bulldoze? They cut trees, run the chainsaws, and a dump truck. Rumor is they have a bunker according to my son.
It takes a lot of money to pull that off, I am just above poverty so.....it is out of the question for me. I sure wish I could build fencing or something. I decided to let some grassland grow up more along the front of the property. Maybe some trees will start up in there. I already have an old tree line there, but it is not enough coverage for me.
The same neighbors on the East have purchased 5 acres on my West. They had someone lumber out the trees. They go over and cut stuff from time to time and I heard from a relative of theirs they plan to build. I let it be known I like my privacy in a nice way and that I wasn't happy about it. Of course being ever so nice and kind. I only wish I had the money to buy it when it came up for sale. It sucks being poor. You have to put up with so much crap.

As much heavenly as it sound, it ain't much heaven when the state government is against you ideologically and law. The state is practically govern by mob-rule, if the legislature can't get bad bill to pass case in point, gun restrictions, the liberal legislature including the governor and attorney general will help put it on a ballet with outside resources, two liberal counties pretty much vote for the whole state. the best way to describe the two counties is machiavellianism.

 

[brandx]

As much heavenly as it sound, it ain't much heaven when the state government is against you ideologically and law. The state is practically govern by mob-rule, if the legislature can't get bad bill to pass case in point, gun restrictions, the liberal legislature including the governor and attorney general will help put it on a ballet with outside resources, two liberal counties pretty much vote for the whole state. the best way to describe the two counties is machiavellianism.

Sounds like Ill which is full of decent people but you have Chicago making all the rules.

 

[DrPrepper1]

We lived in a house several years ago. The people that lived next door were bikers. It was a mom and a dad and their son. The parents split up. The boy stopped going to school. He was out in his front yard all day. He listened to music, smoked cigarettes, drank alcohol and probably other stuff. Other kids would skip school and they would go to his house. After school the kids would congregate there. The police came out several times a week. The mom would leave for days at a time and the kid would just hang out and party all the time. It was that house. It was very frustrating.

We moved and shortly after they moved. The kid got arrested for refusing to give the police his name. He spent over a week in jail. He just wanted to be mule headed.

I found out later that the kid died in 2012. The mom was devastated..... I mean devastated. She still writes open letters to him (even today) on Facebook.

I think she feels guilty for not being around. Not that any of that matters because they were a royal pain the butt to live next door too.

 

[brandx]

you don't want our next door neighbour, she has a history of mental illness-she can be talking to you as nice as anything one minute, the next minute she is flying into a rage, the best thing is she isn't even the tenant-that's her daughter and she's never there! we just ignore her, don't make eye contact-she dosent exist.

Just keep a side eye out on her but keep on walking. Sounds like a good idea. So 30% of the population are A-_ _ _ _'s and 30% are insane Folks like us, the sane, the prepared, the listening and lay low types are probably a very small minority.

 

[brandx]

We lived in a house several years ago. The people that lived next door were bikers. It was a mom and a dad and their son. The parents split up. The boy stopped going to school. He was out in his front yard all day. He listened to music, smoked cigarettes, drank alcohol and probably other stuff. Other kids would skip school and they would go to his house. After school the kids would congregate there. The police came out several times a week. The mom would leave for days at a time and the kid would just hang out and party all the time. It was that house. It was very frustrating.

We moved and shortly after they moved. The kid got arrested for refusing to give the police his name. He spent over a week in jail. He just wanted to be mule headed.

I found out later that the kid died in 2012. The mom was devastated..... I mean devastated. She still writes open letters to him (even today) on Facebook.

I think she feels guilty for not being around. Not that any of that matters because they were a royal pain the butt to live next door too.

How awful!! Guilt is a terrible thing to live with. Kids must have structure in practically every moment they are alive til they are grown. Even then they still get in trouble. I know I used to be one. LOL

 

[brandx]

Dad is still upset today over how the neighbor treated him. He said not to let them come to his funeral. Poor guy. 80 year old dude helping a neighbor with a 60 year old tractor. Sigh.

 

[Gazrok]

To be fair, in some places, maintaining an easement can give you a claim on it...so while I get the neighbor's concern, there's a right way, and a wrong way, to handle it. A nice conversation, a signed piece of paper, and a hearty handshake could have resulted in a clean property, and no hard feelings.

 

[TexasFreedom]

One of my neighbors threw all his trash on my property for years. Then I found out he had buried a pipe to drain his washing machine onto my property. It took me a week with a backhoe to clean up all his crap. I now have a privacy fence and don’t have to see him anymore.... it sucks, as I’ve always felt if things get bad we will all need to group together for security and to share the workload.

Well ain't that something. If you never wanted to talk with him again, wait until you know he's leaving town for a week. find the end of that pipe, and take the nastiest liquids you can think of. Make an adapter and with a compressor blow anything and everything back up that pipe. It will go back up into his house, and gush out that opening behind his washer, flooding his bathroom. Imagine those smells festering in his house for a week. And put the drain just as it was after you finished. Imagine his confusion! But you'll see if he doesn't move his drain!

Another route would have been to contact the county compliance office. Point out the problem and go over and talk together with him about it. He'd have a choice: clean it up to your satisfaction with a 3rd-party crew, or pay up the same costs plus in court.

I'm not a good neighbor when a neighbor violates the property line.

 

[lonewolf]

Folks like us, the sane, the prepared, the listening and lay low types are probably a very small minority.

a very small minority in the UK, if you add preppers +bushcrafters +smallholders(homesteaders)+ back to the land types it still wouldn't come to even 1% of the population.

 

[Gazrok]

I'm more of the "kill 'em with kindness" type when it comes to neighbors, as I don't plan on movin' anytime soon, and I know I'll have to keep dealing with them.

But, I also stand up for myself. A neighbor was repeatedly driving her bus out of my entryway (killing the grass in the process, and then she griped about where I put my trash cans (on my property)), somehow convinced that the driveway was hers (it's a 400' drive, leading back to our property, nowhere else)... ???

Anyhow, I finally went over with the real estate map to show them that indeed, it was my drive. She pretty much piped down after that, especially when I floated the idea of putting up a fence to preserve the grass (which would make it impossible for her to use the drive to access her front door, as her driveway goes up to the backdoor.) Never raised my voice, never shouted, just calmly explained what the deal was.

Her daughter is a nasty person though. She stayed there for a bit (in between her prison stints). She was the one who tried to convince her mom it was her drive. (which is ludicrous...as it would mean I'd have to drive down their property to get to mine...duh). She's back in jail now, and last I heard, isn't getting out anytime soon (and the mom (who's a much older lady than I), isn't considering having her there again (stole from her, for drug money).

On the other side, an older guy. His dogs keep getting through the fence into our pastures, but we since helped each other fix a fence after Irma, so we seem good so far. He does some kind of business out of his home working on boats and RVs. Has a huge shop for it there on the property.

Only other neighbors I have, a mom and her little girl. The little gal likes to watch the horses when there are some in the pasture bordering them, and I've invited them both over if she ever wants to see them closer, but so far, hasn't done so. Oh well.

 

[lonewolf]

now you understand why I have as little to do with others as I possibly can people huh?

 

[DrHenley]

I get along fine with my neighbors now, but that is the exception rather than the rule. I have previously always had nosy bitching neighbors that drove me crazy. The last place, the neighbor even claimed that sunlight reflecting off of the windshield of my van was killing his hedge. The place before that, I had a neighbor complaining about the grass in my back yard being too high (the back yard had an eight foot privacy fence!)

 

[brandx]

To be fair, in some places, maintaining an easement can give you a claim on it...so while I get the neighbor's concern, there's a right way, and a wrong way, to handle it. A nice conversation, a signed piece of paper, and a hearty handshake could have resulted in a clean property, and no hard feelings.

He had a great deal if only he had thought it through. It's not like it was a huge field, probably about 1 acre, but up front and next to their front yard. So what will happen is it will all grow up and be a mess and lower his property value and Dad's too. He had free mowing and but had to be a butt. He could have had Dad sign a no claim or paid him 10 bucks a month or something. Now, we know his character and it is not good. Better to know now than when after TSHTF. That is the silver lining of this cloud.
Personally I don't trust any of my neighbors, I don't actually like any of them. down around the corner there is a line of mobile homes scattered on a few acres. All four were on disability. I called it "disabililty row". I don't trust any of them but I just wave as they go by. I talk if they catch me at the end of my lane but just chit chat. they don't even get along with each other, had one ask me a couple of months ago not to say anything about them to one of their other neighbors. I told them I don't talk to anybody about anything. (Hint, like I mean time to go away now.) My feelings are I don't want to know what petty fights you people are involved in back and forth and back and forth. I don't want to hear it at all. This is what happens when 2 unreasonable and 1/2 bubble off personalities live next to each other. For instance, he says he is on his last treatment for lung cancer, he and his wife just got back from the doctor when they saw me weedeating the ditch. Meanwhile he is blowing cigarette smoke in my face, they are thinking of starting a kennel dog rescue because as his wife puts it " the vet asked me if I would do it", obviously the vet does not know that she and her husband are both on disability and what a junk yard they live in. Like, I say, "really". Hopefully that 5 minute conversation will last them at least a year. Someone pulls up, I'm like "on no". LOL
Once they tried to tell me the neighbors kids put a big scratch on their horses nose, I just acted disinterested said uh huh,and they dropped it. One neighbor insinuates that the other burned down their own trailer for the money. It's all a big fuss all the time. I don't even associate especially after trying to put together a watch group and there was disinterest in it. That would have been the only reason to talk was to keep crime down. I think there has been one burglary in 18 years in my neighborhood, nothing taken but some costume jewelry.

 

[brandx]

I get along fine with my neighbors now, but that is the exception rather than the rule. I have previously always had nosy bitching neighbors that drove me crazy. The last place, the neighbor even claimed that sunlight reflecting off of the windshield of my van was killing his hedge. The place before that, I had a neighbor complaining about the grass in my back yard being too high (the back yard had an eight foot privacy fence!)

Oh, two great examples of morons.

 

[Gazrok]

He had free mowing and but had to be a butt.

Agreed.

The place before that, I had a neighbor complaining about the grass in my back yard being too high (the back yard had an eight foot privacy fence!)

Nice. When we do another pool (ours was taken out by Irma), I'll probably put at least a 6' fence up.

 

[Maverick]

Wife house in town (a little outside of town) her closest and only neighbor, A motor cycle club owns the house/club house Gepsy Jokers, they pretty much watch over her and house. No one messes with it, over all they good neighbors though can be noisy, I hate see them go if (or when) the state or feds runs them. They helped her getting to property up here during the winter on several occasions.