Front Porch Chit Chat

[The Innkeeper]

Sleep well! I'm bout gone again too.
It's an interesting story behind that saying.

@gumpy so tell me a story

 

[Double R]

Happy Birthday Ms @Fort!!!!!!!!!

 

[Fort]

Happy Birthday Ms @Fort!!!!!!!!!

Thank you!!! :thumbs up:

 

[gumpy]

To begin with it's not creek, it's Creeks! When people parted company back in the American Indian wars in the Wild Wild West, they were concerned that the Creek Indians would have an uprising. Hence "the Creeks don't rise!"

@gumpy so tell me a story

 

[Meerkat]

Thank you!!! :thumbs up:

Happy belated B-Day Fort.

 

[Meerkat]

To begin with it's not creek, it's Creeks! When people parted company back in the American Indian wars in the Wild Wild West, they were concerned that the Creek Indians would have an uprising. Hence "the Creeks don't rise!"

:thumbs up:

 

[havasu]

Happy belated b-day my friend!

To everyone else this morning....good morning!

 

[squirrelhunter]

Good morning HCL,have a great day.

 

[Fort]

Happy belated B-Day Fort.

Thank you!!

 

[Fort]

Happy belated b-day my friend!

To everyone else this morning....good morning!

Thank you!!

 

[The Innkeeper]

To begin with it's not creek, it's Creeks! When people parted company back in the American Indian wars in the Wild Wild West, they were concerned that the Creek Indians would have an uprising. Hence "the Creeks don't rise!"

thanks man ... always learning

 

[Fort]

thanks man ... always learning

There is never a dull moment when @gumpy is around ;D

 

[Meerkat]

thanks man ... always learning

BOB I love imput too. I just have to be careful with the output. :green man:

 

[Swing]

I'm not usually sleeping, I was working on something yesterday evening. Seems there is always something to do.

 

[Meerkat]

I'm not usually sleeping, I was working on something yesterday evening. Seems there is always something to do.

So true !

 

[The Innkeeper]

BOB I love imput too. I just have to be careful with the output. :green man:

sometimes the filter between my mouth and brain doesnt work propely

 

[Meerkat]

sometimes the filter between my mouth and braindoesn5 work propely

I get all carried away with current events, especially politics. I'm working on it but it is a slow progress. At least I'm aware for whatever thats worth.

 

[The Innkeeper]

I get all carried away with current events, especially politics. I'm working on it but it is a slow progress. At least I'm aware for whatever thats worth.

usually I realize it when the words have already left my mouth

 

[Fort]

sometimes the filter between my mouth and brain doesnt work propely

I get all carried away with current events, especially politics. I'm working on it but it is a slow progress. At least I'm aware for whatever thats worth.

usually I realize it when the words have already left my mouth

A lot of people have this problem. Or they just don't have a filter to begin with.

 

[The Innkeeper]

A lot of people have this problem. Or they just don't have a filter to begin with.

It's entirely possible that I din't develop a filter until later in life and the one I grew might be stunted or broken. I am slowly learning that while there are some things that should be shared, often the manner in which you share them is important. I don't have to START with all guns blazing and grenades.

I am also slowly (my wife would say VERY slowly) learning that it isn't the most important thing to always be right. Sometimes its okay to be right and just let it slide.

People sometimes said I was arrogant, that's simply not true, its just that I really was that good.

 

[The Lazy L]

It's entirely possible that I din't develop a filter until later in life and the one I grew might be stunted or broken. I am slowly learning that while there are some things that should be shared, often the manner in which you share them is important. I don't have to START with all guns blazing and grenades.

I am also slowly (my wife would say VERY slowly) learning that it isn't the most important thing to always be right. Sometimes its okay to be right and just let it slide.

People sometimes said I was arrogant, that's simply not true, its just that I really was that good.

"Honey does this dress make me look fat?"

Option 1: "Yes". You are in the dog house for telling the truth bluntly.
Option 2: "No dress can properly complement your beautiful figure. " She know you are lying but is appreciative that you care.


"Honey. Who is the better Cook? Me or your Mother?"

Option 1: "Oh the way my mom would make..." You are in the dog house for telling the truth bluntly.
Option 2: "You both must have had the same Teacher." She know you are lying but is appreciative that you care.

 

[Fort]

"Honey does this dress make me look fat?"

Option 1: "Yes". You are in the dog house for telling the truth bluntly.
Option 2: "No dress can properly complement your beautiful figure. " She know you are lying but is appreciative that you care.


"Honey. Who is the better Cook? Me or your Mother?"

Option 1: "Oh the way my mom would make..." You are in the dog house for telling the truth bluntly.
Option 2: "You both must have had the same Teacher." She know you are lying but is appreciative that you care.

A lot of men could learn a lot from you.

 

[The Innkeeper]

"Honey does this dress make me look fat?"

Option 1: "Yes". You are in the dog house for telling the truth bluntly.
Option 2: "No dress can properly complement your beautiful figure. " She know you are lying but is appreciative that you care.

@The Lazy L So saying ... no dear it’s not the dress is not the answer?

Years ago we were planing a long weekend trip to Reno and Tahoe and my beautiful bride was 8 months pregnant with our second son. She was trying out bathing suits and came out of the change room and asked me what I thought. I said “ you look like a hot air balloon” which was true. What I should have said is “that one is not to my taste” which has become our code word for when one of us really dislikes something the other likes.

We survived After many tears

 

[Fort]

It's entirely possible that I din't develop a filter until later in life and the one I grew might be stunted or broken. I am slowly learning that while there are some things that should be shared, often the manner in which you share them is important. I don't have to START with all guns blazing and grenades.

I am also slowly (my wife would say VERY slowly) learning that it isn't the most important thing to always be right. Sometimes its okay to be right and just let it slide.

People sometimes said I was arrogant, that's simply not true, its just that I really was that good.

I think it was Chris Rock who said that married men can be right, or they can be happy. I am pretty sure he is divorced now.

Craig Ferguson went through 3 wives. He said he has learned 3 questions in relation to his marriages: Does this need to be said? Does this need to be said by me? Does this need to be said by me right now?

 

[Fort]

So saying ... no dear it’s not the dress is not the answer?

Years ago we were planing a long weekend trip to Reno and Tahoe and my beautiful bride was 8 months pregnant with our second son. She was trying out bathing suits and came out of the change room and asked me what I thought. I said “ you look like a hot air balloon” which was true. What I should have said is “that one is not to my taste” which has become our code word for when one of us really dislikes something the other likes.

We survived After many tears

Your wife deserves a nomination for sainthood.

 

[The Innkeeper]

I think it was Chris Rock who said that married men can be right, or they can be happy. I am pretty sure he is divorced now.

Craig Ferguson went through 3 wives. He said he has learned 3 questions in relation to his marriages: Does this need to be said? Does this need to be said by me? Does this need to be said by me right now?

When the man is right and he knows how to gently and lovingly lead his wife he can be both right and happy.

 

[The Innkeeper]

Your wife deserves a nomination for sainthood.

Without a doubt ... you have no idea.

 

[Fort]

When the man is right and he knows how to gently and lovingly lead his wife he can be both right and happy.

Right and happy can happen, but if you need to choose, I think happy is the better option.

 

[The Innkeeper]

Right and happy can happen, but if you need to choose, I think happy is the better option.

i would say you are wrong but I am going to pretend my filter is working

 

[buildit]

"Honey does this dress make me look fat?"

Option 1: "Yes". You are in the dog house for telling the truth bluntly.
Option 2: "No dress can properly complement your beautiful figure. " She know you are lying but is appreciative that you care.


"Honey. Who is the better Cook? Me or your Mother?"

Option 1: "Oh the way my mom would make..." You are in the dog house for telling the truth bluntly.
Option 2: "You both must have had the same Teacher." She know you are lying but is appreciative that you care.

While I understand the desire for some to have their egos stroked I find that the lies begin with the small stuff and it is better to be honest but to also have a reasonable solution as well as the willingness to support an endeavor to change for the better. I'd rather be told I'm a fat, egotistical, jerk than have someone give me a polite lie which leads me to unreasonable assumptions or conclusions about myself.
But of course this is not an excuse to be unkind in your honesty. There are polite ways to be honest just as there are polite ways to lie.