@MoBookworm1957 ... I drew the line and when younger son did this perpetually...natural maternal instinct to look after our children but there is a line in which they cross that spells enough is enough support from parents.
I was in high school and working evenings, six days a week as a stock-boy. Blew through a pay check and car was running on fumes. Dad had a business so I asked if I could get gas out of the business gas tank. Dad said yes, just make sure I wrote down how much I took. Cool, I thought, a unlimited supply of gas! Well I went through that tank in a few days and told dad I was getting more gas out of his tank. Dad said, No. You haven't paid me back for the last tank of gas yet. From then on I knew my credit was good for one tank only.
I had three accidents in one year. Other then Dad's dirty looks he didn't say a thing because he wasn't paying for my insurance. My monthly car insurance bill was higher then my monthly car payment. You know what I learned? To STOP having accidents.
18 years old, graduated and engaged to be married. We had $2,500 saved for a house down payment for a $10,000 house. Asked Dad if he would co-sign, "No."
On my wedding day, dad told mom to keep her nose out of our business.
I learned that dad would help up to a point and then it was my responsibility, not his.
On the flip side of the family, wife
had a brother and a nephew that NEVER had to suffer the consequences of their bad decisions. Fortunately a great-nephew has the opportunity to learned from a bad decision while he serves his time in a State prison.
Making life too easy for our children is NOT helping them, it's hindering them! IMHO.