If you find a good thing about HOAs please let me know...
Our place is only on 2/3 acre, desert landscaping, and our walls/gates are only 6' (HOA rules). It's just your typical nice AZ snowbird neighborhood. So it's not like a real fortress. And I wouldn't want to stand out anyway. But my goal is to be a "harder" target than the weekend folks down the street with their boat parked ready to steal on a trailer beside the house, no walls or gates... or lights. And to show how safe, it's been like that for years. They come out about once a month, and nobody's ever bothered their place.
As for guns and security, I encourage you to become comfortable and proficient with a firearm. I just went to a new gun store that opened recently. They have a simulator room with guns that use lasers on a big wall size 4K screen. They can show regular targets or complicated scenarios like tracking an active shooter. If there's anything like that in your area you may find it helpful. (He said $50 a half hour, but considering ammo savings not so expensive.)
How I think my house looks...
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Reality...
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