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Glad Pops acted good, he could tell this is a serious relationship. Man I hope I never have to order wine ( hate the stuff) might be cause all I have every drunk was Thunderbird about 40 years ago. Drank a half gallon and was hung over for two weeks. You are more suave and debonair than me. Keep living the dream brother.
 
Well it was your turn to be surprised by the father it seems.....all involved in this deal are having huge life experiences it seems.

I like the fact she refuses to let a remark or gesture set a course and steers the situation into a positive lane going towards a better result.

She is a ray of sunshine and exudes positivity. It seems she saves all of her dark side specifically for me because she knows I can handle it and I don't take it personally... or bring it up again after the fact. I am 100% okay with it, it's not good to hold it in all the time anyway.
 
Glad Pops acted good, he could tell this is a serious relationship. Man I hope I never have to order wine ( hate the stuff) might be cause all I have every drunk was Thunderbird about 40 years ago. Drank a half gallon and was hung over for two weeks. You are more suave and debonair than me. Keep living the dream brother.

He was still a butt, but less so than normal so that was good.

And guess what? I don't like wine either. I keep drinking this fancy stuff because I am trying to acquire a taste for it or at least some kind of appreciation or understanding of how it "pairs" with anything. But time and time again I am disappointed and would rather have a Hi-C juice box or a Dr. Pepper. I am starting to wonder if this whole world of wine is just a pretentious game of make believe and they just laugh when everyone heads home.
 
He was still a butt, but less so than normal so that was good.

And guess what? I don't like wine either. I keep drinking this fancy stuff because I am trying to acquire a taste for it or at least some kind of appreciation or understanding of how it "pairs" with anything. But time and time again I am disappointed and would rather have a Hi-C juice box or a Dr. Pepper. I am starting to wonder if this whole world of wine is just a pretentious game of make believe and they just laugh when everyone heads home.
even kool-aid is better most times !!!!
 
even kool-aid is better most times !!!!

The lady, who is 99.98% more refined than I am, can tell the difference and loves all these different wines. She knows all the ins and outs, what goes with what, etc., and so on. Maybe someday I will figure it out and appreciate the taste, but right now it all tastes like someone sucked the fun out of grape juice.
 
The lady, who is 99.98% more refined than I am, can tell the difference and loves all these different wines. She knows all the ins and outs, what goes with what, etc., and so on. Maybe someday I will figure it out and appreciate the taste, but right now it all tastes like someone sucked the fun out of grape juice.
straight up fruit juice is better....lol....cider is better than wine...but no one wants to call it wine even though its a pressed fruit...wine was for higher ups and cider was for commoners in europe back in the day...pear cider was for kings and queens....theres more pears going into pear cider now by the way..i am yet to try it or evn see it local.
 
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Me: What kind of pizza do you want?

Lady: Oh, I don't care, whatever.

Me: Okay how about Blue Pan?

Lady: No, not Blue Pan.

Me: Well then, let's do Angelo's.

Lady: I'm not feeling Angelo's.

Me: What kind of pizza do you want then?

Lady: I don't really care, whatever.

Me: 😐

Lady: Marco's sounds kind of good.

Me: Then let's do Marco's.

Lady: Whatever you want.

Me: 🤨
 
Me: What kind of pizza do you want?

Lady: Oh, I don't care, whatever.

Me: Okay how about Blue Pan?

Lady: No, not Blue Pan.

Me: Well then, let's do Angelo's.

Lady: I'm not feeling Angelo's.

Me: What kind of pizza do you want then?

Lady: I don't really care, whatever.

Me: 😐

Lady: Marco's sounds kind of good.

Me: Then let's do Marco's.

Lady: Whatever you want.

Me: 🤨
Alright, little relationship secret....next time, only ask ONCE!! If she has no decision, find a piece of cardboard and a sharpie marker!! DRAW a pizza, have the table set with nice dishes, (right before the REAL pizza shows up)!! Get scissors and cut the cardboard pizza into slices!! Pray the real pizza shows up before you get hurt!!
 
So I order Marco's, she's happy but then tells me that she gets to choose next time, I told her "you chose this time", she starts to squabble with me, I threaten to start withholding *** if she keeps it up, she tells me I am not capable of withholding ***, I declare she is now going without until further notice, she comes over and says "I bet I can get you to surrender", I make it clear that she is going to lose this battle and then the next thing you know spray whipped cream is everywhere, the mattress is half off the frame, she has a bruise on her hip, my wrist hurts, and she is saying "I told you so". Meanwhile I am not sure who won or who lost in this situation. Regardless next time we are ordering Blue Pan or she's gonna have to make me order something else. I added more spray whipped cream to the grocery order, just in case.
 
its going to be a shame you have to video whats for supper question each time to show her how she answered....lol...dont forget to turn it off for last part of what went on...lol
 
You can tell the lady is leaving first thing tomorrow. She has been on my like a cop's knee on George Floyd for the last day or two, called me like 3x today and has been texting me regularly. This same thing happened when she went to that conference, a few days of strong attachment then she leaves and is all sad that we're apart. I put a nice note of support and a framed picture of me wearing an "emotional support human" t-shirt in her luggage, which was fully packed already a day ago. I am sure once she gets there she will be busy and have less time to be concerned about me and what I am doing. Maybe.
 
Her father is in the hospital run assisted living center as his hip heals from the break, but between that and his late-stage cirrhosis of the liver and other conditions, the medical team is strongly suggesting that he remain there or be placed in another care facility. No one came out and said he is not long for the world, but it was implied heavily. One example of this is when the doctor said normally, he would have suggested a replacement hip as the broken one was in poor condition, “but under the current circumstances…” with a look that said, “there’s really no point”. The lady and her sister visited with their father who they say looked horrible and was clearly unhappy in his forced sober state. The ladies tried to convince him to relocate to our city, but he refuses to leave the city he is currently in and does not care about any amenities or the quality of the place so he will likely just stay put where he is. The lady believes he doesn’t want visitors, and they were only there to facilitate the dissolution of his 'business' and the life he has been living the last several years.

Then the lady went and met with her father’s attorney and as she expected was granted power of attorney and provided with a host of information about various financial accounts, debts, investments, etc., etc. The father wants her to ensure his living and medical expenses are covered, his townhouse and vehicles are sold, his accounts liquidated, and his assistant continues to receive her pay while also having access to spending money to purchase him things he wants. Otherwise, she is supposed to just let everything sit and wait for his death. She was also provided with a copy of his updated last will and testament which was extremely simple; 40% to sister, 40% to lady, 10% to granddaughter, and 10% to his personal assistant. The lady and her sister will share share medical power of attorney, and he already has a do not resuscitate order. He also provided a short list of what the dad wants when he departs the Earth, to include no funeral, no ceremonies, no obituary, and no grave or grave marker. He simply wants cremation and unattended interment at the closest VA cemetery, nothing more.

She has been there like 2 hours now and has sent me at least 3 facepalm emojis.
 
I hate your lady is having to deal with all this. It does sound like most of the financial side is mostly just needing a caretaker for now. Thats a huge benifit

Me too. I am glad her sister went to help, what little help she can offer. Tomorrow is where it's gonna really suck IMO. They are going to clean out his townhouse, which the assistant described as "horrible and messy". Or at least it was the last time she was allowed inside. The good news is that he has ample resources so they can hire helpers.
 
Her father is in the hospital run assisted living center as his hip heals from the break, but between that and his late-stage cirrhosis of the liver and other conditions, the medical team is strongly suggesting that he remain there or be placed in another care facility. No one came out and said he is not long for the world, but it was implied heavily. One example of this is when the doctor said normally, he would have suggested a replacement hip as the broken one was in poor condition, “but under the current circumstances…” with a look that said, “there’s really no point”. The lady and her sister visited with their father who they say looked horrible and was clearly unhappy in his forced sober state. The ladies tried to convince him to relocate to our city, but he refuses to leave the city he is currently in and does not care about any amenities or the quality of the place so he will likely just stay put where he is. The lady believes he doesn’t want visitors, and they were only there to facilitate the dissolution of his 'business' and the life he has been living the last several years.

Then the lady went and met with her father’s attorney and as she expected was granted power of attorney and provided with a host of information about various financial accounts, debts, investments, etc., etc. The father wants her to ensure his living and medical expenses are covered, his townhouse and vehicles are sold, his accounts liquidated, and his assistant continues to receive her pay while also having access to spending money to purchase him things he wants. Otherwise, she is supposed to just let everything sit and wait for his death. She was also provided with a copy of his updated last will and testament which was extremely simple; 40% to sister, 40% to lady, 10% to granddaughter, and 10% to his personal assistant. The lady and her sister will share share medical power of attorney, and he already has a do not resuscitate order. He also provided a short list of what the dad wants when he departs the Earth, to include no funeral, no ceremonies, no obituary, and no grave or grave marker. He simply wants cremation and unattended interment at the closest VA cemetery, nothing more.

She has been there like 2 hours now and has sent me at least 3 facepalm emojis.
I think that no matter the situation of a parent dying, it is never easy. Getting along with siblings can be a big bonus in this. Cleaning up properties and everything is so messy. I don't envy anyone who has to do that. Being able to hire someone to help is such a blessing.

While my parents died when I was a child, the one blessing in that was that we (siblings and me) didn't have to deal with cleaning out and settling the estate.

I've told it here before, that I know a lawyer who deals with estates. He told me that every day in his practice, he has to deal someone, the adult child in an estate situation, who believes that they should get everything and their siblings should get nothing. So glad that I never had to deal with that, but I know people who have.

My sweet grandmother (versus the narc one) had written out in detail who should get what. It was a huge help when we went to her house after her funeral and graveside service, to know who was to get what.
 
I think that no matter the situation of a parent dying, it is never easy. Getting along with siblings can be a big bonus in this. Cleaning up properties and everything is so messy. I don't envy anyone who has to do that. Being able to hire someone to help is such a blessing.

While my parents died when I was a child, the one blessing in that was that we (siblings and me) didn't have to deal with cleaning out and settling the estate.

I've told it here before, that I know a lawyer who deals with estates. He told me that every day in his practice, he has to deal someone, the adult child in an estate situation, who believes that they should get everything and their siblings should get nothing. So glad that I never had to deal with that, but I know people who have.

My sweet grandmother (versus the narc one) had written out in detail who should get what. It was a huge help when we went to her house after her funeral and graveside service, to know who was to get what.

The lady's father has or had two sisters. Before she was born her grandfather passed and his children got into a HUGE fight that turned into years long legal battle over his personal assets. The lady's dad was already running the business and had full control over that, but his dad's Will specified a division of 1/3 of his personal wealth to each of his 3 children. The two daughters each felt they somehow deserved more than the other and their brother deserved none because he "got" the business he had worked at his entire life. He set up a meeting them, said let's work it out right here or I will give up my 1/3 but I never want to see either of you again. They chose the money, he walked away and cut all ties with them for life. She didn't know any of this until her mother passed away and she got a sympathy card from someone claiming to be her Aunt. She has no interest in having a relationship with her.
 
The lady's father has or had two sisters. Before she was born her grandfather passed and his children got into a HUGE fight that turned into years long legal battle over his personal assets. The lady's dad was already running the business and had full control over that, but his dad's Will specified a division of 1/3 of his personal wealth to each of his 3 children. The two daughters each felt they somehow deserved more than the other and their brother deserved none because he "got" the business he had worked at his entire life. He set up a meeting them, said let's work it out right here or I will give up my 1/3 but I never want to see either of you again. They chose the money, he walked away and cut all ties with them for life. She didn't know any of this until her mother passed away and she got a sympathy card from someone claiming to be her Aunt. She has no interest in having a relationship with her.
There are so many people waiting for a parent to die so that they can inherit.

I had just spent Christmas break with my dear sweet grandmother and she died in early January following that. I never thought about an inheritance. I got 1/4 of my mother's share from the sale of her house in town and later, from the sale of the ranch. Oh how I wish I had gotten a piece of land instead, even if it was not good farm land, but full of clay. The Rosebud Sioux tribe owns it now.
 
There are so many people waiting for a parent to die so that they can inherit.

Sometimes I am reminded that being the sole child of a single man and having no mother, no grandparents, no aunts or uncles that I know of, etc. was not such a bad hand to be dealt after all. All I will inherit is a couple guns, an old badge, and a stack of bills.
 
Sometimes I am reminded that being the sole child of a single man and having no mother, no grandparents, no aunts or uncles that I know of, etc. was not such a bad hand to be dealt after all. All I will inherit is a couple guns, an old badge, and a stack of bills.
And old badge? Was he a cop or a sheriff?

I never knew what happened to most of the guns in the family. The interesting thing is that I don't think I ever laid eyes on them either. One of them was stolen from my grandmothers house when she was gone. Her house was locked, with a hidden key. Family members believe that they know which family member stole the gun. It was an odd gun, something about a hexagon or octagon. It may have been the only one in S.D. or one of just a few.

My brothers fought viciously, and the guns were probably hidden to protect them from themselves. When they were in h.s., they were driving to school one morning and had a fight where they declared that one of them would be deceased before the fight was over. One of them needed stitches due to a barbed wire fence, but they are both still alive.
 
Worse. He was a fed for 24-25 years then did courthouse security for at least 10-11 years after that. I ******* hated it, the first part not the second. I was gone before then.
I'm not trying to get deep into your private life, but a fed, like a guard at Canon City? Or the prison out off of Kipling and Hampden where Rod Blagojevich, the former governor of Illinois was incarcerated?
 
Courthouse work. He could have been a guard when Timothy McVeigh was on trial in downtown Denver. That was at a federal building. I drove by that building every day when that trial was going on, on my way to work.
 
I figured a logger, construction worker,welder, railroad, mechanic, factory worker. Anything but a Fed, but maybe that explains his personality.

He was defined by round badges, cheap suits, windbreakers, mustaches, brown liquor and cigarettes. Now all he does is reminisce about those days. He was definitely more concerned about his career than he was his child.


I'm not trying to get deep into your private life, but a fed, like a guard at Canon City? Or the prison out off of Kipling and Hampden where Rod Blagojevich, the former governor of Illinois was incarcerated?

I really didn't mean to bring it up, because I really did hate it, but he was a deputy US marshal then special deputy assigned to a federal courthouse. So yes, he has some claim to fame and loves to tell everyone about it.
 

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