I so agree. I noticed that in my last relationship that the control came on slowly, but towards the end, several of my friendships were closed off for reasons that were his. People have their own issues of jealousy, insecurity, and others. As someone I know said, "Everyone needs a little therapy sooner or later." I often think therapy is like paying someone instead of having a good friend who listens, asks good questions, reasons, and is able to diplomatically point out some things that need to be looked at and reconsidered.