Understanding Narcissism and Narcissists

[montanabill]

And unfortunately narcissist's and borderlines are really hard to pull back to reality till they see what and who the problems is.....One of my favorite discussion points is after the person onloads on you how everything is someone else's fault is to ask them how their current lifestyle is working out for them...
Hopefully we are thru that stage with the kiddo we have been raising. His response to having to go to school was to throw up till he had a eroded esophagus......now several years later he and a friend are building their own tiny houses in the back yard....

 

[Amish Heart]

Many just don't pull back. A few I've known just get worse with age. Then you've got to set your boundaries to decide how to care about them when they need help.

 

[Weedygarden]

Revenge is not something I believe is helpful. This is a good video.

 

[Amish Heart]

I agree with this so much. It's been amazing to me to see how older twin granddaughter (who is a narcissist) has still been trying to put her foot in the door to find out info about us or keep the hurt going....wanting to come to my mom's funeral....sending out a save the date note to her upcoming wedding to a female. Someone still is feeding her info, even tho she lives three hrs away now. I think she wants to check in and see that we are miserable with out her, and we are very much happier. But even that is not her business. She doesn't get to know about our life anymore.

 

[Weedygarden]

I agree with this so much. It's been amazing to me to see how older twin granddaughter (who is a narcissist) has still been trying to put her foot in the door to find out info about us or keep the hurt going....wanting to come to my mom's funeral....sending out a save the date note to her upcoming wedding to a female. Someone still is feeding her info, even tho she lives three hrs away now. I think she wants to check in and see that we are miserable with out her, and we are very much happier. But even that is not her business. She doesn't get to know about our life anymore.

Do you have any idea who is keeping her informed? Is there a flying monkey?

 

[Amish Heart]

There are a few, I'm sure. She has her hooks in a few people. Just can't tell exactly.