What's everybody doing today?

[DrPrepper]

Just so all my friends here know,
I haven't abandoned the forum.

My mom was rushed to hospital last Monday, non responsive, in and out of coma since then. She is 91, they say she had a heart attack.
They are not doing anything but making her comfortable
I been by her side everyday, still am.
Just waiting for the inevitable.

She is in God's hands .

Jim,
I'm sorry about your Mom. Sending prayers for your mom and for you and your family.

 

[Caribou]

Keep singing Jim, she can hear you.

 

[NannyPatty]

Jim if it gets too bad for y'all you may be able to care fro her t home where you can relax.
You now can rent hospital beds ,oxygen tanks , and hospice will come around to help, so will Visiting Angels or nurses or like us just family. Didn't cost that much either.

Actually, Medicare pays for home hospice and the supplies needed.

 

[Sewingcreations15]

Started off the morning with warming up in front of the fire.

Went into town to post our traded herbs in the 3 envelopes, went and saw the bank about various interest and account types and DH had to see a JP to have his licence varified so he can get his military discharge certificates and medals sent to him and to the chemist to fill a script for pain medication. Then we went shopping to get an electric knife which turned into buying more items after we saw they had Sherpa lined jackets for $25 ea instead of the $50 - $100 price tag everywhere else so we purchased 3, and flannel shirts in DH's size for $7 ea and bought 3 also and I had to get some long sleeved t-shirts as my others have worn out and are starting to get holes in them but found some on special for $5 ea and bought 4. DH is now starting to feel the cold finally after they dealt with his Q Fever where he was constantly running a high temperature.

Got home and did a bit of financial work to log our expenses into our spreadsheet and I downloaded a voucher for $10 worth of free groceries from a customer loyalty card. Then out again tonight to visit some friends we were concerned about as they have been working very long hours and both have health complaints, they are doing well but are extremely tired. We suggested the husband try and reduce his work and travel hours so they can spend some more family time together which he is considering.

Again warming up in front of the fire and tonight's dinner was the rest of our vegetable burgers made yesterday that we heated up in the oven.

 

[Meerkat]

Jim,

It's wonderful that you can be there for her AND for you.
You're a wonderful, wonderful son.
Remember this isn't a goodbye but a "see you later".

When I worked in palliative care I gave up my meal breaks to sit with
those who had no-one and held their hand.
I can think of nothing more horrifying than being alone waiting for the Father to call me home
so I sat with others during their wait.

During that time I treated the whole family unit as a whole.
The patient themselves weren't the only one in need during that time.
What happen to the patient happened to all of them.
Tissues, sandwiches, coffee, sympathy and a shoulder to cry on and
time to sit and listen to loved ones recollections of good times and bad
gave a lot of comfort and healing.
A lot of loved ones were touched when staff asked if they could sit with them during their
meal breaks at the bed side.
It showed a very human touch and in a lot of cases they, very gently started
reminiscing to encourage sharing and healing.

Tank, Sounds like you are a very nice caring person.

 

[Meerkat]

Actually, Medicare pays for home hospice and the supplies needed.

My mother died 3 months before she was eligible fro Medicare so we paid for it all. But it wasn't that expensive for the supplies. And it made her very comfortable considering.
She was nice to Hospice but ask them to let me take care of her. So my sister and I did till the morgue came and hubby helped him put mama in the body bag. Fire Dept were great people too.
But I was younger then too so I was able. Some of us are nto able to do this.

 

[hiwall]

Received 2 propane non-electric wall heaters yesterday. I had enough fittings on hand to install one of them and I got that done. I made a list of fittings needed for the second heater and I will pick those up on the next trip to town. I could have gotten by without these 2 heaters but better to have one at each end of the house just in case.
Next winter we will not be using the gas in-floor heat at all. We will use the gas fireplace and these 2 new heaters as needed. No electric required for any of them. Obviously the in-floor heat will still be available to use if we decide to do so but we will try it without using it. I expect savings on our gas bill by not using the wasteful in-floor heat.

 

[Meerkat]

Started off the morning with warming up in front of the fire.

Went into town to post our traded herbs in the 3 envelopes, went and saw the bank about various interest and account types and DH had to see a JP to have his licence varified so he can get his military discharge certificates and medals sent to him and to the chemist to fill a script for pain medication. Then we went shopping to get an electric knife which turned into buying more items after we saw they had Sherpa lined jackets for $25 ea instead of the $50 - $100 price tag everywhere else so we purchased 3, and flannel shirts in DH's size for $7 ea and bought 3 also and I had to get some long sleeved t-shirts as my others have worn out and are starting to get holes in them but found some on special for $5 ea and bought 4. DH is now starting to feel the cold finally after they dealt with his Q Fever where he was constantly running a high temperature.

Got home and did a bit of financial work to log our expenses into our spreadsheet and I downloaded a voucher for $10 worth of free groceries from a customer loyalty card. Then out again tonight to visit some friends we were concerned about as they have been working very long hours and both have health complaints, they are doing well but are extremely tired. We suggested the husband try and reduce his work and travel hours so they can spend some more family time together which he is considering.

Again warming up in front of the fire and tonight's dinner was the rest of our vegetable burgers made yesterday that we heated up in the oven.

Sewing, sounds like you had a prosperous day plus got a lot done.

 

[Terri9630]

Every day over 90° we bring the rabbits in the house. The high heat will kill them. The kid had just put one in the carrier and stood to get the next and fainted. She fell on the stacked hay so she didn't hurt herself, or the bun, but scared me to death. She's had dizzy spells before but not like that. The Doc said its not unusual to fall or pass out when making elevation changes like that because her blood pressure is dropping and her body isn't reacting properly.

I am not liking this. Not one bit. I've stopped her drivers ed and I'm fixing to duct tape her to my hip.

 

[squirrelhunter]

Uh,staying in the house now,daggone rain !!! I started trimming trees and was going to trim around the little trees but got rained out.

 

[viking]

Well I'm just sitting here thinking about those of you who have parents that are still alive, with DW and I in our 70's our moms and dads are long dead, wife still has a couple of aunts that are still alive but it is still a strange feeling not having parents to talk to and when I get sentimental I sometimes sing a short song, "Hey old man take a look at my life, I'm a lot like you.", then I realize, I am the old man and I'm a dad to more than just my son.

 

[NannyPatty]

Well said, Viking! I lost my mom in my early 30’s and my dad in my 40’s. The older I get, the more I miss them. But, I’ll see them again one day.

SQ, send the rain to Oklahoma! We’re in drought again.

 

[phideaux]

Check the radar....West Ky is getting hammered.

Been getting hammered last 3 days..., 2-3 times a day.

Little break here ....pleeze.


Jim

 

[Sewingcreations15]

@Terri9630 yes that is what I was warning you about on the postural things for her to get up slowly, wiggle feet, shake legs etc as it is a regular thing to pass out. Believe it or not it is quite normal and not uncommon to faint or pass out but it is the landings you have to watch out for. Practice with her to get up slowly bit by bit if on the floor, bending down etc. If it is any comfort she will still breathe when she is passed out but of course it is scary for her and those around her such as yourself and yes do keep an eye on her especially if she is doing anything that requires bending over or getting up off the floor.

Bending is best done on one knee on the ground with one hand on the ground rather than a bend from the waist etc, less of a postural change and if she feels faint getting up she already has her knee and hand on or near the ground to stabilise her, thus less distance to fall. All a matter of working out strategies that will work for her and minimise damage when falling from a fainting spell. Unfortunately I have to say she and I cannot control the fainting but usually you feel it coming on moments before it happens and should take evasive action.

 

[snappy1]

Took DH's car to mechanic this morning, voted in run-off election, took pup to the Beauty Parlour. While she was there I picked up a shifter cable for DH at another mechanic. And did a load of laundry this morning.

 

[Tank-Girl]

Working out a budget and looking at supermarket catalogues.

I need LPG cylinders filled but I need that money for fuel to get to
a joint physio and surgeon's visit.

I still have my electric hotplate so things aren't really that bad and having redundancy / plan B to fall back on has proven it's worth time and time again.
Still having two empty cylinders when things are this close to going belly up
makes me extremely nervous.

Best news in the world is I can pay the last and final triple instalment plus $25 to finally pay off my tax bill.
To get rid of that this pension is worth any sort of pain and suffering for the next fortnight and then it's gone forever.

 

[Terri9630]

@Terri9630 yes that is what I was warning you about on the postural things for her to get up slowly, wiggle feet, shake legs etc as it is a regular thing to pass out. Believe it or not it is quite normal and not uncommon to faint or pass out but it is the landings you have to watch out for. Practice with her to get up slowly bit by bit if on the floor, bending down etc. If it is any comfort she will still breathe when she is passed out but of course it is scary for her and those around her such as yourself and yes do keep an eye on her especially if she is doing anything that requires bending over or getting up off the floor.

Bending is best done on one knee on the ground with one hand on the ground rather than a bend from the waist etc, less of a postural change and if she feels faint getting up she already has her knee and hand on or near the ground to stabilise her, thus less distance to fall. All a matter of working out strategies that will work for her and minimise damage when falling from a fainting spell. Unfortunately I have to say she and I cannot control the fainting but usually you feel it coming on moments before it happens and should take evasive action.

She said she felt it coming but had the rabbit in her arms and didn't want to squish him so set him in the cage instead of catching herself. We had the carrier up on a waist height stand but the rabbit had been struggling so she had bent down to get the rabbit on the ground and get a better grip before he fell.

 

[Terri9630]

Check the radar....West Ky is getting hammered.

Been getting hammered last 3 days..., 2-3 times a day.

Little break here ....pleeze.


Jim

Stay safe.

 

[Sewingcreations15]

@Tank-Girl go girl how wonderful you are on your last payment and you will have more money to go around once that is over and done with. You can always have the gas cylinders filled once that is done.

 

[Sewingcreations15]

@Terri9630 yep it will take a while for her to get used to but she will work out her own emergency plans and how to enact them. Tell her I call the hand and knee thing the rolling faint. Hand on ground, sit on bottom and lie or roll while fainting.

 

[Terri9630]

@Terri9630 yep it will take a while for her to get used to but she will work out her own emergency plans and how to enact them. Tell her I call the hand and knee thing the rolling faint. Hand on ground, sit on bottom and lie or roll while fainting.

I'll let her know, thanks. I'm glad y'all are here because she would freak if she knew how stressed I am with all this and hubby currently has enough stupidity to deal with at work for me to add to it.

 

[Sewingcreations15]

@Terri9630 relax and go with the flow and just watch her on the above scenarios through the corner of your eye and be near and also keep an eye out when doing things together at her face she will turn white before passing out which will give you some forewarning to tell her to sit.

 

[Terri9630]

@Terri9630 relax and go with the flow and just watch her on the above scenarios through the corner of your eye and be near and also keep an eye out when doing things together at her face she will turn white before passing out which will give you some forewarning to tell her to sit.

Im trying. I thought we were past all this, we almost lost her several times as a baby and all but the stomach issues quit by the time she was 3. Now the Drs think it was "all this" that she had and we didn't recognise the symptoms coming back until recently. I don't think I slept for her first few years, especially once they pulled the heart monitor.

 

[Sewingcreations15]

Round 1 of today is I started with watering some of the back lawn with saved grey water from our showers and washing machine. DH stain removed some clothing and put on a load of washing with our new clothing we purchased yesterday and others and is now hanging it on the clothes line and watering the other half of the back lawns with saved grey water from our showers and washing machine.

We have just finished DH washing up the dishes and cleaning the benches and I wiped them and put them away and then got a load of bread going in the bread making machine.

It is raining finally here and they are saying we should get around 15 - 25 mm later today and into the night , we so need lots of rain to green things up again and also for the vegetable gardens. I currently have the drip irrigation system going for the back vegetable gardens.

DH has also paid the rent and other bills and then we will head into town and get out some money for the home E.K to replenish that, pick up our $10 worth of free groceries I have downloaded to my card, maybe get a couple more pairs of $2 sunglasses for use in the garden and chainsawing and post dried sage we picked and dried from the gardens I sold on the internet.

Shall see if we have any more energy when we get home to do more things.

 

[Terri9630]

Round 1 of today is I started with watering some of the back lawn with saved grey water from our showers and washing machine. DH stain removed some clothing and put on a load of washing with our new clothing we purchased yesterday and others and is now hanging it on the clothes line and watering the other half of the back lawns with saved grey water from our showers and washing machine.

We have just finished DH washing up the dishes and cleaning the benches and I wiped them and put them away and then got a load of bread going in the bread making machine.

It is raining finally here and they are saying we should get around 15 - 25 mm later today and into the night , we so need lots of rain to green things up again and also for the vegetable gardens. I currently have the drip irrigation system going for the back vegetable gardens.

DH has also paid the rent and other bills and then we will head into town and get out some money for the home E.K to replenish that, pick up our $10 worth of free groceries I have downloaded to my card, maybe get a couple more pairs of $2 sunglasses for use in the garden and chainsawing and post dried sage we picked and dried from the gardens I sold on the internet.

Shall see if we have any more energy when we get home to do more things.

You forgot "being therapist for overly stressed out person on line.".

 

[Sewingcreations15]

oops therapist for @Terri9630 too and remember stressing will not change the situation, and in fact will make it worse and daughter who is already stressed will pick up on Mum's stress too.

 

[Tank-Girl]

@Tank-Girl go girl how wonderful you are on your last payment and you will have more money to go around once that is over and done with. You can always have the gas cylinders filled once that is done.

Thank you so much!

You of all people know how much I've struggled and just how much this means.
That's $183 per pension freed up. (a triple payment)
That's huge.

 

[Sewingcreations15]

@Tank-Girl the sad part is that it wasn't your fault in the first place but I am so happy that you will have so much more money left in your pension . You after this fortnight can breathe a sigh of relief and get back to normal.

I indeed know what it is like to struggle and that is why we are such good friends among other reasons too.

 

[Terri9630]

oops therapist for @Terri9630 too and remember stressing will not change the situation, and in fact will make it worse and daughter who is already stressed will pick up on Mum's stress too.

That's why I'm stressing out here after she's in bed and I can hide in my room.

 

[Sewingcreations15]

@Terri9630 stressing in my own saying causes more grey hairs, ulcers and causes you to get sick and in my view is really never worth it. I understand the Mum in us all and it is only natural considering your daughters bumpy start but you will not be able to look after her if you get sick either, fellow Mum grandmother hugs .