You DO realize where your relationship is headed don't you?!
I suspect it won't be long.
I suspect it won't be long.
Very good possibility!Exactly. I wonder if that wasn't part of her inner-conversation yesterday?
Exactly. I wonder if that wasn't part of her inner-conversation yesterday?
Very good possibility!
Debbie dentist buys a big nice home....James Rockford buys a bunker or trailer out by the lake....daughter goes head over heels for her best buddy and all of you live happily ever after just like it is.
You DO realize where your relationship is headed don't you?!
I suspect it won't be long.
The final chapter: (please look for the sequel, "Love and Marriage" ): We woke up in a motel room in Vegas, still a little unsure of what happened! The gold band on my finger brought a brief smile to my lips as I recalled the ceremony from the night before! The Elvis impersonator did a great job ! I smiled more thinking about how we nailed the Elvis karaoke afterwards! As looked over at my beautiful lady, now my wife............... I'll let Marsh take it from here
she was thinking...i would have babies with this man !!!
she just rolling it around in her head just how much she loves you....thats a huge portion of it.
you can tell words out your mouth and say things...but your inner brain conversations tell the truth....in her mind it uses the word love OFTEN !!
The final chapter will be put on hold until further noticeIf you people are trying to get me to run back into the mountains you are doing a really good job.
I think she just analyzes everything in 6th gear at 133mph on the gray matter autobahn while my brain just sits and idles most of the time in the parking lot that is my skull. We had some pillow talk last night about that word and I asked her if she was happy, she said yes, so I said "then why would we want to change anything? We live together, we sleep together, we are committed, we are happy... seems like we're living the dream." She just said "You know what, you're right" and then she got all frisky like a cougar. I don't know what the future will bring, but I know for right now I am going to maintain the status quo until the time comes to take another step forward.
Not at all!!If you people are trying to get me to run back into the mountains you are doing a really good job.
I think she just analyzes everything in 6th gear at 133mph on the gray matter autobahn while my brain just sits and idles most of the time in the parking lot that is my skull. We had some pillow talk last night about that word and I asked her if she was happy, she said yes, so I said "then why would we want to change anything? We live together, we sleep together, we are committed, we are happy... seems like we're living the dream." She just said "You know what, you're right" and then she got all frisky like a cougar. I don't know what the future will bring, but I know for right now I am going to maintain the status quo until the time comes to take another step forward.
Not at all!!
You two seem to have something very special, and it may very well end in marriage.
That'll be up to the both of you, the if and the when!
"until the time comes to take another step forward." When that "Status Quo" Changes and they both remember what was in both of their Past Family Situations...!!!
Yes, there are serious legal issues between legal and common law marriages.So we are surely two halves of a whole and I will confess that it would take something both unlikely and insane to separate me from her, but I really hate the idea of institutional marriage. For whatever illogical reason civil unions don't bother me as much even though they too are just governmental intrusions into relationships, as are domestic partnerships. In my state if we live together and declare ourselves a married couple, we are common law husband and wife without any need for a license. But I am going to need to ask the lawyer how well that holds up in court when it comes to things like living wills and other legal scenarios. With her ex, her sister, he dad and who knows who else around that could be a real issue.
The real question here is, will she decide for both of us before I figure things out? I have somehow turned out to be the patient once, while she keeps talking me into things I initially didn't plan on.
Depends on what state you are in!!Yes, there are serious legal issues between legal and common law marriages.
Yes, there are serious legal issues between legal and common law marriages.
Depends on what state you are in!!
vacation money !!
I still think you need to have some kind of ceremony , with your friends standing beside you in the meadow (hint).In my wonderful rainbow-loving state there are many built in legal protections for common law marriages, civil unions and domestic partnerships mostly made into law back the days before gay people could get married.
From what I have read on a state specific legal site: under common law we would have full and equal property rights, equal financial rights and liabilities, inheritance rights, can file join tax returns, can have a living will and make medical decision and are essentially considered married under state law but not federal law. So the main downside is no shared or joint federal tax benefits, social security benefits, VA benefits, etc. The down side at the state level is if we ever wanted to split we would still need to die or go through the legal divorce process. And I am sure she would rather kill me than every get divorced again.
Isn't that for FUNerals...?!?I still think you need to have some kind of ceremony , with your friends standing beside you in the meadow (hint).
They want to meet the future In-law.So the grocery people came and went. Was pretty slick and easy. The only sucky thing is that there was one item not available and so I either have to go get it myself somewhere else or just go without. They did select a couple reasonable alternatives for other unavailable items.
The cleaning people also came and went. That was a little more tenuous as they came inside and were running around cleaning. I locked up all the guns and valuables before they arrived, sans the ones on my person so I didn't have to worry about that. They worked quickly and efficiently and almost acted like I wasn't even there. The crew leader did ask a couple questions and commented that they did very little in the kitchen compared to normal. I took credit for that. The place looks really nice and the invasion of my privacy was brief.
So how much cash do you keep in your home? I put some stuff in the ladies bedroom safe and was surprised to find a thick envelope of cash inside. I definitely should have asked for more than $300. I used to keep a couple grand around but she had a lot more than that.
In other news, it seems the sister wants to meet me. What is happening? Why do all these people want to get-to-know me just because I am wrestling naked with a woman they are related to? I am going to push this one off as long as possible plus 13 months. If these people keeping popping up I am going to suggest we move to Poland. They need dental hygienists too and that area is always looking for people with certain skills.
I sent your lady a Taser, so you know, kinda look surprised the first time she uses it on you!Date night!
Won't be too late as our post mini-golf 'reservation' is only good for 2 hours, then we get kicked out. But 2 hours is plenty of time for cocktails and a small meal. I am also cooking a full meal at home before we go, but that's for the girl and tomorrow's lunch. The lady told me I should not be cooking on date night, the daughter can just fend for herself. But when I told the girl I wasn't cooking she gave me the pouty look and pretended she might starve to death, so I conceded. Then the lady accused her of having me wrapped around her little finger before the daughter rolled her eyes and made a smart ass remark about her mom just being jealous. Let's just say it got kind of tense and weird. So I just engaged my commanding voice and told them both to "knock it off" , then added that I was grown man who did what I want and what I wanted was to cook for the girl and take the mom out on the town. Period. End of story. They both went quiet and soon thereafter everything seemed to go back to normal.
So maybe I will chalk this up to:
Apartment Life-Lesson #5: women get catty in enclosed spaces and need someone to take charge before things get out of hand. I may need to get a Taser for myself.
i am not one to be around others so much but anything like a book store or a library i am all for....as rough as i am if i could get in that place in my bib overalls i would go and like to see it at least once.
when i was in portland area i would venture to down town to powells book store thats reported to be worlds largest book store and risk city down town driving and all that weird parking etc. to spend hours looking at all the books.
if i am ever in that area..you are taking me to that place ! sorry you just are...i pay my way though.
ahhhh....NO !The lady came home and wanted to talk about $. Apparently she called my wealth manager who wasn't overly cooperative with her because she is just my girlfriend. I can sum up her thoughts on the matter in 3 words: DID NOT LIKE. So now she wants to be added to the account and in turn wants to add me to hers, or "we could just go down and file for a civil union". She also said if I am worried about my money vs her money she will keep all of our funds completely separate and sign whatever they call the civil union version of a prenup. I told her I would think about it over, which was all she wanted at this point but I am sure she will ask me in a hour what I have decided. Maybe 30 minutes. Much of this is about her desire to buy a house and either not finance it at all or tactically finance part of it based on the interest rate versus rate of return.
i cant wait...my little trip headed out west i be stopping in and seeing hashbrown and alexander and smoke a little homegrown and catch some big trout...then go to one of these places with rockford and debbie dentist in a weird cool place and i bet rockford would fix it so i had a date with a librarian type that would play footsy with under the table even....drive back home stop and rest at harshbrowns one more time and head home!Nice. We have several but that one is only one fronted by a bookstore. Another one is inside an ice cream shop and one is the in the basement of an old hotel, but you question your life choices 2-3 times before you actually make it to the door.
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