You DO realize where your relationship is headed don't you?!
I suspect it won't be long.
I suspect it won't be long.
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The final chapter: (please look for the sequel, "Love and Marriage" ): We woke up in a motel room in Vegas, still a little unsure of what happened! The gold band on my finger brought a brief smile to my lips as I recalled the ceremony from the night before! The Elvis impersonator did a great job ! I smiled more thinking about how we nailed the Elvis karaoke afterwards! As looked over at my beautiful lady, now my wife............... I'll let Marsh take it from here
Debbie dentist buys a big nice home....James Rockford buys a bunker or trailer out by the lake....daughter goes head over heels for her best buddy and all of you live happily ever after just like it is.
Very good possibility!
she was thinking...i would have babies with this man !!!
she just rolling it around in her head just how much she loves you....thats a huge portion of it.
you can tell words out your mouth and say things...but your inner brain conversations tell the truth....in her mind it uses the word love OFTEN !!
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The final chapter: (please look for the sequel, "Love and Marriage" ): We woke up in a motel room in Vegas, still a little unsure of what happened! The gold band on my finger brought a brief smile to my lips as I recalled the ceremony from the night before! The Elvis impersonator did a great job ! I smiled more thinking about how we nailed the Elvis karaoke afterwards! As looked over at my beautiful lady, now my wife............... I'll let Marsh take it from here
If you people are trying to get me to run back into the mountains you are doing a really good job.
I think she just analyzes everything in 6th gear at 133mph on the gray matter autobahn while my brain just sits and idles most of the time in the parking lot that is my skull. We had some pillow talk last night about that word and I asked her if she was happy, she said yes, so I said "then why would we want to change anything? We live together, we sleep together, we are committed, we are happy... seems like we're living the dream." She just said "You know what, you're right" and then she got all frisky like a cougar. I don't know what the future will bring, but I know for right now I am going to maintain the status quo until the time comes to take another step forward.
The final chapter will be put on hold until further notice
Not at all!!
You two seem to have something very special, and it may very well end in marriage.
That'll be up to the both of you, the if and the when!
"until the time comes to take another step forward." When that "Status Quo" Changes and they both remember what was in both of their Past Family Situations...!!!
"until the time comes to take another step forward." When that "Status Quo" Changes and they both remember what was in both of their Past Family Situations...!!!
So we are surely two halves of a whole and I will confess that it would take something both unlikely and insane to separate me from her, but I really hate the idea of institutional marriage. For whatever illogical reason civil unions don't bother me as much even though they too are just governmental intrusions into relationships, as are domestic partnerships. In my state if we live together and declare ourselves a married couple, we are common law husband and wife without any need for a license. But I am going to need to ask the lawyer how well that holds up in court when it comes to things like living wills and other legal scenarios. With her ex, her sister, he dad and who knows who else around that could be a real issue.
The real question here is, will she decide for both of us before I figure things out? I have somehow turned out to be the patient once, while she keeps talking me into things I initially didn't plan on.
Yes, there are serious legal issues between legal and common law marriages.
Depends on what state you are in!!
In my wonderful rainbow-loving state there are many built in legal protections for common law marriages, civil unions and domestic partnerships mostly made into law back the days before gay people could get married.
From what I have read on a state specific legal site: under common law we would have full and equal property rights, equal financial rights and liabilities, inheritance rights, can file join tax returns, can have a living will and make medical decision and are essentially considered married under state law but not federal law. So the main downside is no shared or joint federal tax benefits, social security benefits, VA benefits, etc. The down side at the state level is if we ever wanted to split we would still need to die or go through the legal divorce process. And I am sure she would rather kill me than every get divorced again.
Couple other updates:
The stalker has stayed away completely and he did indeed withdraw from the school the girl goes to and seems to be going to a different school now. So I decided it was time to get the GPS tracker back, which fortunately wasn't that hard since I was able to track down his car! I will still watch his phone for a while but I feel like we are beyond the emotional reactionary stage.
The lady and I talked last night and I am going to give the cleaning crew and grocery service a try for a few weeks. I did my online shopping / list making for the personal shopper last night and plan to be here to receive and put away the groceries and monitor the cleaning service tomorrow. The lady was concerned that I am doing too much already and that I am going to burn myself out. I explained that I wasn't paying rent or anything other than buying food and that cooking, cleaning, running errands, etc. was the least I could do. Then she climbed on my lap, got all kissy and started telling me that she was more than happy being my sugar mama and I didn't need to feel indebted in any way. She said that keeping her and the girl safe, well fed and happy were my only three jobs. Then she added that keeping her "satisfied" was included in the happy part. I jokingly asked for a $300 a month stipend so I could also get my hair cut and look handsome for her. When I went to get dressed this morning post workout and shower there were three $100 bills on my pillow with sticky note that said "I take care of my man!" Now I am trying to decide if I am going to give it back or just embrace the situation. I should have asked for $500.
The stalker has stayed away completely and he did indeed withdraw from the school the girl goes to and seems to be going to a different school now. So I decided it was time to get the GPS tracker back, which fortunately wasn't that hard since I was able to track down his car! I will still watch his phone for a while but I feel like we are beyond the emotional reactionary stage.
The lady and I talked last night and I am going to give the cleaning crew and grocery service a try for a few weeks. I did my online shopping / list making for the personal shopper last night and plan to be here to receive and put away the groceries and monitor the cleaning service tomorrow. The lady was concerned that I am doing too much already and that I am going to burn myself out. I explained that I wasn't paying rent or anything other than buying food and that cooking, cleaning, running errands, etc. was the least I could do. Then she climbed on my lap, got all kissy and started telling me that she was more than happy being my sugar mama and I didn't need to feel indebted in any way. She said that keeping her and the girl safe, well fed and happy were my only three jobs. Then she added that keeping her "satisfied" was included in the happy part. I jokingly asked for a $300 a month stipend so I could also get my hair cut and look handsome for her. When I went to get dressed this morning post workout and shower there were three $100 bills on my pillow with sticky note that said "I take care of my man!" Now I am trying to decide if I am going to give it back or just embrace the situation. I should have asked for $500.
vacation money !!
It's gonna be date money for tomorrow night! I am taking her out for mini-golf and other games, then to an upscale hidden speakeasy that also does small plate meals. I had to drop $100 today to get a last minute reservation. The black haired woman manning the fake business in front of the speakeasy told me it would be 3+ weeks until I could get on the list, so I pulled out a Grant and asked of there was any way she could fit me in. She looked at it and said "Sorry daddy, that might get you a reservation for one". Then somehow, magically, after I pulled out a Benjamin an additional spot opened. And by the way she really did call me daddy, like three times, which was really weird. I think she was what they call an emo or goth or something that involved her real dad not going to enough of her dance recitals.
I still think you need to have some kind of ceremony , with your friends standing beside you in the meadow (hint).
I think you need a raise!! 
Isn't that for FUNerals...?!?
So the grocery people came and went. Was pretty slick and easy. The only sucky thing is that there was one item not available and so I either have to go get it myself somewhere else or just go without. They did select a couple reasonable alternatives for other unavailable items.
The cleaning people also came and went. That was a little more tenuous as they came inside and were running around cleaning. I locked up all the guns and valuables before they arrived, sans the ones on my person so I didn't have to worry about that. They worked quickly and efficiently and almost acted like I wasn't even there. The crew leader did ask a couple questions and commented that they did very little in the kitchen compared to normal. I took credit for that. The place looks really nice and the invasion of my privacy was brief.
So how much cash do you keep in your home? I put some stuff in the ladies bedroom safe and was surprised to find a thick envelope of cash inside. I definitely should have asked for more than $300. I used to keep a couple grand around but she had a lot more than that.
In other news, it seems the sister wants to meet me. What is happening? Why do all these people want to get-to-know me just because I am wrestling naked with a woman they are related to? I am going to push this one off as long as possible plus 13 months. If these people keeping popping up I am going to suggest we move to Poland. They need dental hygienists too and that area is always looking for people with certain skills.
The cleaning people also came and went. That was a little more tenuous as they came inside and were running around cleaning. I locked up all the guns and valuables before they arrived, sans the ones on my person so I didn't have to worry about that. They worked quickly and efficiently and almost acted like I wasn't even there. The crew leader did ask a couple questions and commented that they did very little in the kitchen compared to normal. I took credit for that. The place looks really nice and the invasion of my privacy was brief.
So how much cash do you keep in your home? I put some stuff in the ladies bedroom safe and was surprised to find a thick envelope of cash inside. I definitely should have asked for more than $300. I used to keep a couple grand around but she had a lot more than that.
In other news, it seems the sister wants to meet me. What is happening? Why do all these people want to get-to-know me just because I am wrestling naked with a woman they are related to? I am going to push this one off as long as possible plus 13 months. If these people keeping popping up I am going to suggest we move to Poland. They need dental hygienists too and that area is always looking for people with certain skills.
