It got late faster than we wanted it to and the time arrived for us to set off for her apartment. As we made our way through town we talked more about the night and her performance. She asked me if I liked the song she sang. Slightly puzzled as I had done nothing but praise her performance I said “Yes, of course, I have been telling you that for hours.” She said I misunderstood and asked if I liked the original song, the actual song by the band 10cc. I told her I had heard it before and it was a really good song. She began to tell me all about the band and how they made music using styles and instruments no one else was using at the time. Then she told me how the idea for the song came into the band’s lead singers mind. The song was apparently written in response to his wife’s comment that he didn’t express his love to her often enough. The band member, feeling guilty, countered that if he said “I love you” all the time, the phrase would lose its meaning and its intensity. And thus “I’m not in love” was his way of telling her that when he did say it, he really meant it. The lady then, with less enthusiasm, mentioned that for a large part of her life she would say it because it was “just what you say” even if you don’t really feel it. But the next time she says it, she will say it with purpose and she will truly mean it. After a short period of silence I responded by saying “I don’t think people should ever say something that powerful unless they are being completely honest with the words”. I also confessed that those words have never really been in my vocabulary before, but one never knew what the future held.